Hello, everyone! I am including a link to a cute article that my sister Katie (an adoptive mom) was interviewed for. Even if you are not thinking of ever adopting, it is short and has a few good tips in it. I know that some of these things drive her crazy!
5 Things to Never Say to an Adoptive Parent - Parenting on Shine

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Krissy

Great article! The only one that I kind of disagree with being an inappropriate question is the "Is he/she yours?"
I think this is a question asked of a lot of people, because they don't know you are the parent, the aunt, the babysitter, etc. I could see an adoptive parent assuming the question is being asked just of them, but I think it is really an innocent question asked of anyone who is holding a baby at the time.

Is your sister the one in the photo?

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Sarah--Yes, my sister and niece are the ones in the photo. I agree that many people ask if a baby is "yours", but I have been with her and I definitely think that people ask her much more often than they would if the baby "looked" like her. I think this is probably a problem of interracial couples, too. In "John and Kate Plus 8", for example, those kids don't look anything like her! It isnt in the article, but I have actually heard people say some really rude things to her. I never realized that there are "anti-adoption" people out there until she adopted my niece; some people are very against it. Personally, I think it is a win-win situation!

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Krissy

Your niece is adorable! That's horrible that people are negative... why on earth would you criticize someone for adopting??? Some people are just negative no matter what the situation, I suppose. You could hand them an envelope full of money and they'd find a reason to complain.

I would love to adopt someday. It's always been something I've planned to do, so hopefully it's still in our cards for the future. I know DH thinks this is our last child, but I think it's just our last pregnancy.

Thanks for sharing the article!

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Sarah--Thanks, she is a really sweet little girl. I did tell my sister that she is wrong about one thing; when you find out you are pregnant people DO tell you their horror stories about everything that can go wrong! I think it is great that you would consider adoption; I am not sure why some people are so wierd about it. I guess they hear only bad things and horror stories, but there are so many great stories out there, too!

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Krissy