In trying to decide when to TTC again, I keep wondering what the perfect age difference for us will be so I thought i'd ask for some input on what other people have experienced.

What is the age difference between your children and what are some of the pro's and con's?

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I'll let you know in July! I am due 9 days after DD 2nd birthday!

My bro and I were 22 mos. apart and it worked out ok. We fought a lot, but it was nice to always have someone to play with!

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I didn't take the poll cause...well, don't have any, but I used to have REALLY strong opinions a/b it. Now I don't. I say if you want another, have another. There are arguments on every side of the spacing topic, but somehow, it all works itself out one way or another, no matter if they are 10.5 months apart (I have two people I know who that happened to) or more than 20 years apart (like ours are going to be -- my oldest, DSS is 22 now). I'll have grandchildren - multiple - older than my kids. "Oh, yes, this is my aunt. Yes, I know she can't walk yet." "Is that your son?" "No, that's my grandson. THAT'S my son." LOL!

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I didn't vote since I'm not having more than one, but I always felt like if I did have more than one I wanted no less than 4 years between. I wanted them to not be in high school together.

Mainly because my brother and I over lapped one year of high school and I hated it.

See, and I loved being in highschool with my sister -- she was a senior when I was a freshman, so I had different 'status', since I had an upperclassman sibling. Problems and perks no matter, and no real hard and fast rule.

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I voted for less than 2 years apart.

I have 7 1/2 yrs. between my oldest Briana and my middle Nate. (because of conception issues/pregnancy issues) There is just over 2 yrs. between Ethan and Nate. It is perfect, I would have loved them a couple months closer if I could have choose it.

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And then there is my little brother...he's 12 years younger than my sister and 8 years younger than me. It was cool as a young lady to be able to share that experience and learn from my own mother, as good as she was. I never much had baby dolls, you know? I had a real baby!

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I didn't vote bc I only have one child but my brother and I are 25 months and I loved that. We had 2 years together in hs and 3 in college. We were very close as children, drifted apart as teenagers and are very close as adults. Sister is 3 1/2 years younger and that was tough. I was a senior when she was a freshman. Now, a lot can be said about age difference and gender too. And that's something we can't control...

We will most likely start trying for ours to be no closer than 2 years. So about the time we conceived Charlie next year it's game on...

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It's werid my brother and I are 2 years apart and we fought all the time when we were kids and really aren't close now, but DH and his sister are 5 years apart and they are very close. They talk on the phone a couple times a week and we take 2 or 3 vacations together every year. Of course that is probably a personality issue more than the age difference.

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Christie- our current plan is to start TTC again in May (which is the same month we conceived Olivia) so they would be 2 years apart also. I just see some of my friends two year olds or have a bad day with Olivia and think how on earth am i going to do this with a toddler and an infant, lol, and then i have to go over the plan all over again.

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Jen - Yeah me and my sis are 6 years apart. I don't feel close to her at all. It was fun when I was little, I remember holding her and dropping her but I hated it when she always wanted to be with me when I was older.

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I voted for 5 or more. Since I've been TTC for over 2 years...my children will be between 12 and 13 years apart. Not ideal since my sister and I are 13 years apart and we are not very close at all. Actually I pretty much despise her.

The pros is I was able to dedicate my attention fully to one child for many years. By the time my 2nd child is in school Jonathan will be pretty much out of the house and independent so I'll be able to give my 2nd child all the attention as well.

The con my kids will pretty much live completely seperate lives.

I think you make whatever situation you end up with work for you.

For those of us TTC for a long time we don't even think about when is the PERFECT time IS since we'll pretty much take anytime.

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I voted for less then 2 years apart. My two brothers and I are 5 years apart exactly. I completely despised the older brother while I completely loved my youngest brother. With the older one, we constantly fighted because he was the baby and I was supposed to be this protector of him when I didn't want to be. I was only 5 years old and felt very jealous of him. Then my youngest brother came along, I was there for his birth and always had an attatchment to him, I think because I was older I understood better the sister role. But I always thought it was cool when siblings were in school together. Whenever I was in high school or junior high, I had wished I had a sister or my brothers there to keep me company when I had my bad times.

As for us though, we're currently not trying but not preventing either so its entirely possible for us to have another very, very close in age. I'd definitely welcome another pregnancy as it took over 14 months in order to get pregnant with my daughter and that was with fertility drugs. I don't think I'd want them 10 months apart exactly or anything but I think having them over a year apart is a nice gap. I want them to have that close bond and sibling relationship. Cause I know that even with a mere 5 year age gap, when my brothers were born and were 5 years apart, they never understood what I was going through at the time. They were too young nor were they interested, which caused me to get really distant from them sometimes.

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I'm not voting, since I obviously have no children yet. However, my brother and I are just over two years apart. I'm pretty sure we got along as little kids, but once we grew up a bit, we really, really disliked eachother. I mean, it was not pretty. We were NOT close all through high school and college. It wasn't until about 5 or 6 years ago that we got close again. Still not close as in we call each other every week, but we get along when I'm home.

Honestly, I think every situation is going to be different, and every child is different. I don't think you can plan for how well your kids are going to get along. If I were able to pop kids out easily, I would do most of my planning around how it would work best for me and my DH, as far as time away from work, money, etc. I just don't think you can conjure up a happy sibling relationship in your head and it magically happens because you have two kids close together.

Betsy is right though, at this point, I'll take any kid at any time!

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Well, Alex and Sydney are 6 years apart and Sydney and Jack are 4 years apart. It was easier with Sydney as a baby because Alex was so independent and could do a lot of things by himself. Not as easy with Jack because Sydney still requires alot of attention, however if we have another I don't want them more than 3 years apart. Sydney loves Jack so much! I would love to start trying next August and shoot for a May baby and them be two years apart but I don't think I will be able to talk dh into it.

My sister and I are 2 1/2 years apart and we are not close at all but that is because we are nothing alike. She lives for today and does not think about tomorrow and I am the opposite.

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I voted for 2 years apart. I have that spacing with my siblings and love it and then my 2 older ones are 2 years also. My girls are best friends and I am close with my siblings too.
Because Mia took us so long to get there is a big gap there so I really feel like any spacing is what you make of it.
When the big girls were little it was hard to take care of both of them but on the flip side taking an infant to soccer, little league and dance class it hard too.
Whatever you decide will have pros and cons but in the end a baby will always be hard work and the biggest blessing you could ever ask for.

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