Hi all... I just wanted to re-introduce myself as it's been quite some time since I've posted. For most of you who don't know/remember me, my name is Ashley. I was introduced here by Crystal a few months ago. I joined because I had thought that my hubby was ready to start trying, and I needed every bit of advice out there, but I've been fighting with him ever since. We've been married for over 2 years now (which isn't really that long), but he is 8 years older than I, and it scares me to keep waiting. I know that a baby is not what scares him, its everything that comes along with it. (I guess that means we can classify him as vain ) Who knows. Anyway, I'm determined to do whatever it takes, and I guess now all I can do is ask for help... Any advice?

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Welcome back!!! Join the TTC section for the montly chat and good luck TTC!

We're happy to have you & you will love it here.

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Ashley - welcome back! I wish I had some advice for you. Its really tough when both parties aren't on the same page and since having a baby is such a huge responsibility it can be one of the things that scares people. I hope you can come to an agreement with DH so you can start TTC.

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hey ash, eric will come around sooner or later. i think once dec comes and you are completely done with school and have another income he might be less worried. thats his main problem being a worry wort, but its a good thing

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Crystal... This is what I mean... I'monline doing hw and he sends me this....

Baby names - the name Stone with name origin, name popularity and name meaning.

Pretty Lame but whatever... I'm SO confused!!!

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Ashley ~ You may approach him with the 'let's forget the condoms and timing stuff and not think too much about it for a little while' concept. If he's still bringing home condoms...you are right, poor confused DH. There's a big difference at the beginning between NOT preventing and actively TRYING with temps and OPKs and all that. He may need to get into it in stages, and with any luck, it will all happen in a great way that he's eased out of the confusion about the time you get that BFP.

Bottom line is, to me, it sounds like having a 'not preventing' conversation is the first step.

Others might disagree with me on this: Knowing your body is one thing, but I say do NOT immerse yourself in the land of OPKs and temping and all that stuff if he's still wandering in with condoms ~ you'll end up in the nuthouse. Once the demon sinks its teeth in, it's hard to shake. Some of us who've been around a while should be there. In the nuthouse. Or perhaps it's only me.

And heck, my H and I have been having serious problems this year -- he's run off a few times, had a mental breakdown (this came first I think), cheated on me, gone jobless...$hit, I'm the poster-child for it 'not being the right time', but now that he's home again, I'm ttc again. Cause it's kinda hard to do it by myself. Judging by the past almost 31 years, I'll die childless and alone if I wait for everything to be 'right' in my life. I don't care about the mundane obstacles anymore. After more than two and a half years, two losses, 8 months of clomid, countless bloodtests...I don't care what is supposed to be 'right' anymore. KWIM?

Good luck dear.

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WElcome back Ashley!

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