Christie~ So are you guys officially "not preventing" now then?

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Jenna- Good question.. you'd have to ask DH LOL We'll see..

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Christie a little wine and some persuasion(sp?) will go a LONGGGGGG way!

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Karen is a baby pusher.

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LOL- Maybe you should try out the tatas on number 3 Karen?

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Okay, so I have to post this some where so yall can help me sort through it. This is going to sound very strange because lots of women on here are pg with their 2nd baby.. anyways.. I sometimes feel guilty that I will get pg quickly this time like I did the first time when I know there are so many women on here trying to hard with no luck. Is that crazy? I think I will feel guilty posting my BFP when the time comes, especially if it happens fast..

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Christie - I know what you mean, but I think as long as you post it in the appropriate threads your good. Just like the infertility section, those ladies feel and go through things that we can't relate with. Like when they are mad/upset when ppl at work get pg or what ever the situation, it's just something that we'll never fully understand, but thats their special place to talk about it and if we choose to read it then we should accept that they have the right to feel that way. Just as we have the right to post our BFP's in the baby sections. Those are just my thoughts on it. I think everyone on the board is happy for EVERY BFP no matter how long it took. So we want to see that BFP when it happens and include a pic of a stick, I still love to look at those things!

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Christie-I get how you feel, because I felt the same way when I started TTC #2. I felt that because I already had one child, I shouldn't complain about TTC and not getting PG, etc. But I know it was all me and in my head, because all the TTC girls were/are nothing but supportive!! And Cassie is right, everyone is always genuinely happy when someone gets their BFP no matter how "easy" it may have been, so put the guilt aside and go make Charlie a big brother!

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Thanks Cassie and Bina. You really did make me feel better. I *know* everyone would be happy but you can't help but hurt for your friends ya know? Anyways, we'll see if we get going this month or wait a bit longer. I'll keep yall posted.

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Christie- I am so DONEEEEEEEE having kids so I will baby push you!!!! I love it when my friends are preggo and I get to watch them grow and then watch the babies grow. I am sort of sad at times that I will not be preggo again or have a newborn again but I will just be thankful that I have two and move on!

As for the way you are feeling...it is tough. I went through this second pregnancy a bit sad because my BFF has struggled with infertility for four years and it eventually destroyed her marriage. I felt I couldn't talk about things with her or feel joy around her about this pregnancy. It is just part of life. My heart also goes out for the girls having a hard time getting preggo and as Cassie said we will never understand how they feel and I just respect that and don't say things that will make matters worse.

Now go make a baby DARN IT! Start attacking now until you O! What is so hard to understand??? He will take one for the team I am sure!

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Karen~ You make me LOL!!! You're killin' me. I really think you want another baby.

christie~ Keep us posted! And I know what you mean. I still feel guilty about how fast I conceived Jaicee....I know everyone has their struggles in life, and there will be things for each of us to learn from our own personal struggles. I know the IF girls appreciate us being their friends, pregnant or not.

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Christie - I feel the exact same way. I conceived Marika on the first "real" cycle. I COMPLETELY sympathize with the IF women because I have watched some family members and friends struggle with IF and it really does take a toll on your emotions. I get comfort in knowing that they will eventually get their baby and that it will be so special for them when their time comes around. Can't wait to see if Charlie gets a baby brother/sister soon!

Jenna - Wonder which one of us will get PG first LOL! We both got PG pretty quickly.

Karen - You silly girl. What would we do without you!?

You know, I am excited about getting PG with #2 but I told DH that I want to make sure that #2 isn't the final one. I don't like knowing that my child bearing years are over so soon KWIM? SOOO....maybe we will shoot for more.

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Kayla~ When do you guys think you'll start ttc again? We could make it a race.... Just kiddin'.

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So considering I'm on cycle day 58 and we were at the $tree yesterday, I picked up a test. Now I knew I wasn't pregnant but I'm so sick of waiting for her to show. I really wish my cycle would get back to normal. P.S. It was SSSSOOOO negative.

GO CHRISTIE~ GO JENNA~ GO KAYLA~ MAKE SOME BABIES!!!

Christie - Being one of those IF girls, there is no reason why you should allow yourself to feel guilty, bad etc about ttc #2. We (in IF) have our days, but it doesn't in any way mean that we're not happy for those of you who do conceive, whether it be your first or your 6th. Sometimes it stings a bit, but we're still happy for you.

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Christie ~ I'm seconding what Bec said. Cassie said it well from the other angle too.

When you are an 'IF member' (at least for me), it's almost like having a split personality. You are genuinely happy for your friends, just as your friends hurt for you (like you said Christie). The emotional IF issues go on aside from the happiness for others.

You feeling guilty about getting a BFP would be like one of us feeling guilty because we DIDN'T get a BFP for one of y'all. Did that make any sense?

Feel for ladies with IF, but don't feel guilt for us in having your own joy. Be joyful. Not one of us would want to take a SHRED of your joy away at your own new baby being created.

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Steph/Rac- Thanks for your words. They really were sweet. I KNOW you are always happy for me/us, but I WANT it SO BAD for yall too. It's hard to say what I mean!

Thanks girls! We'll just have to wait and see.

Karen- I am LMAO at you!

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