Happy February Girls!

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Holy cow! February already!! Where is the time going?? Today is Anna's 4 month appointment. I bought some frozen veges if they say it is time for her to start cereal and veges. This weekend was DH's birthday but we didn't do anything. Next Monday we are packing up to go to the aquarium because it is free I'm excited I think Ben will LOVE it.
Back-I'm thinking Ben was on whole milk around 11 months. Our ped said to start transitioning him when he was 10ish months. I'm pretty sure it took like a week or two. He did great.
Krissy-That is so scary. I keep most of our pictures on Facebook but you can adjust the privacy settings so no one can see them.

Krissy- OMG, how creepy! So this total weirdo stranger had pics of his butt on his site?

Irene- :<3: Thank you! You totally get it. That means so much. I kinda thought I was nuts there for a while! I ended up NOT apologizing. I just called him late in the day and said "can I come home" and he acted like he didnt' know what I was talking about and said "of course, it's OUR house". I just went on to talk about D's fever and we never talked about it. I'm thinking I might try this approach for a while. I have a feeling I'll end up carrying around resentment until it blows, but who knows?

As for the feeding-I kind of mix things up. Sometimes he gets 4oz bottle before the food-because he's hungry and grumpy and I'm trying to get the food ready. And sometimes he gets water with his food. Donovan almost always has access to a bottle of water. I'm always trying to get him to replace a formula meal with solids or take water instead of milk (in case he is wanting to suck for comfort, not hunger. If he is hungry, I'll give him formula) but mostly that's my food issues coupled with his chunkiness!

Do you girls have any sage wisdom on raw little noses? Donovan definately has a cold and everytime I attempt to wipe the STREAM of snot under his nose he gets so mad! Same thing with the nasal aspirator or saline drops. Although sometimes he'll let me get there with the sucky thing, but to put some saline in his nose? Forget it.

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B fights me when he has a runny nose to, its quite the battle at our house right now actually I have to pin him under me dang that sounds bad doesnt it ha ha i promise I dont beat him it just sounds like it!! It doesnt matter if its just a kleenex or if its the nose sucker he fights you, his cold is coming back it seems yesterday the snotty nose came back and the cough got worse

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Claire-My Dh acts the same way. He will usually give me the silent treatment for a couple of hours or a day or so(but I don't let this bother me anymore cause if he's not talking to me then he can't ask me to do anything for him..hehe) Then after the silent treatment he just starts talking again and acts like nothing happened. Also, I put Vaseline on Bella's nose of the night when I am not whipping it and it usually helps with the rawness.
Tricia-Thanks.Bella's pedi thinks she should go off the bottle at exactly 1 and shouldn't have whole milk till then. But to me that seems like drastic changes all at once.
Hannah will be turning 7 on the 23rd. She doesn't have any ideals on what she wants for her birthday. And I am at a lose to. I wish she could have her party at a park but i am just about certain it will be too cold. So my only other choices is Pizza Hut and our house. I really don't want to do it at our house because just with all the family it feels cramped and then there will be the kids from school..and all that cleaning to be done before and after the party. She does know that she wants a pinata And I don't think we would be able to do that at Pizza Hut. Any help...please..

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Back, I am stealing krissy's idea and Im having B's birthday at our local hotel pool, pizza and cake and presents and swimming!! you could probably do a pinata in the breakfast room??

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Krissy - thats really freaky. I'm so naive about stuff like that - its hard to believe how many sickos there are out there and how diligent we have to be to avoid them!!!

Rhea - men are dumb LOL! I know what you mean about the resentment building. I yelled at DH this weekend that I'm sick of being a single parent because he always has stuff to do on the weekends and sometimes after work in the evenings. Even though I know its all stuff that has to be done it still sucks.

As for poor D's little nose, I would try vaseline or aquaphor - thats what I've been using on Kieran's raw cheeks - I swear he must be the drooliest baby I've ever seen and I don't think he's even teething yet!!! I can never get near Kieran's nose with the drops or the aspirator either - he struggles so hard and one time I ended up scratching his nose trying to get a big booger out. I felt so bad

Well I guess I was definitely getting ahead of myself worrying about Kieran missing his nighttime feedings because he was back to getting up twice during the night again. And I don't know what happened but bedtime turned into a huge battle the last few nights???? It was like a flashback to how he was at around 3 months when he first decided that he would rather stay up with us than sleep ever again!!! I spent almost 3 hours trying to get him down on Saturday. Every time I put him down in his crib he would start screaming and after 15-20 minutes I would go in and pick him up, calm him down - eventually I tried to feed him more and even that didn't work. I know I need to try CIO more consistently but I've never been able to bear it for that long - plus I don't know if this happens to you guys too but he sucks in so much air and then he really needs to burp/spit up - usually if I go in and burp him and hold him for a few minutes, he'll calm down and go to sleep. But this time he would start screaming again. I ended up sitting with him in the recliner and he fell asleep on me for the first time in ages and I stayed like that for about 45 minutes. DH found us like that when he came home at around 10:30... so he went to put Kieran to bed and guess what - he woke up again and started crying. DH sat with him in the chair (I think he was a little jealous that K fell asleep on me LOL!) and we all fell asleep that way until 1 in the morning ugh! Poor K was hoarse yesterday after all that screaming... it didn't stop him from trying the same nonsense last night though. I know I shouldn't but I put him in the swing... I told DH I just couldn't take it 2 nights in a row Then I got him up at 11, fed him and he went right into the crib with no problem.

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Irene- Have you had his ears checked? That sounds like Jay when he has an ear infection. I am sorry he is being so difficult! I resent my husband sometimes when he does things after work. I know it is unfair because he does work all day but when you are home alone with your kids you are so ready for some help and adult conversation!!

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Claire--not HIS butt LOL! His file of pics was called something along the lines of "Hot Summer Asses" and it was full of girlie butts. It was like soft core butt porn. Gross--why would he think that a site full of baby pics was a "favorite" of his? YUCK! As for noses, they make a saline that sprays in -- it is little Noses and it has a little spray thing on it, we found that works way easier than the eye drop type.

Irene--I might check his ears, also. Ely slept terrible with ear infections.

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Christie - I haven't. I guess I just figured that since he's so easy to calm down when you pick him up that he's not really sick? Also he was fine for naps during the day. I have his 6 month appt next Monday - do you think it sounds like I should get him checked out sooner? I told my husband that even though I know my job isn't as hard as his (whether I believe that or not haha!) but that the difference is that its 24-7 so its nice to have him around helping as much as possible.

Krissy - I tried the little noses thing on Kieran - I went through a whole bottle of it with all the times it got everywhere but in his nose!!!

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Irene--Have you tried the one with the sprayer? We were never able to get the Little Noses in correctly with the regular kind, but this spray one is great because you can do it while they are sitting upright and the nozzle is pointed up and literally sprays really well. It is still not the easiest thing in the world, and he doesnt love it, but it is WAY easier than the original little noses. I think I got it at Target?

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Krissy

Irene- I agree, sounds like something hurts him when he's lying down. Could be ears, could be teething (a little early but you never know). Donovan was acting that way a little this weekend with his cold. Fell asleep on me twice and he NEVER does that.

I understand being a single-parent, too. I've NEVER admitted this out loud, but here goes: Ever since we were TTC, DH has made it clear that I wanted a baby more than him. And now that D is here, it's like ALL me. DH never gets up in the night with him or knows if it's feeding time or sleepy time or anything. Granted, I can't toally blame DH. I've never shook him in the night because D was crying. Never said "it's your turn". He's taking Donovan two nights a week while I go to Volleyball, so that's progress.

LOL, we had the same issue with "little noses"!

Krissy- ew, gross! I can't get the "little noses" stuff anywhere near his face-he sees it coming! Smart little bugger. I'll have to try that spray, though. You can make the original one mist, too-but it's hard!

Allison- It's terrible! I hate trying to pin him. And you know what? I have NO idea where it came from, but he's got a small little bruise like a partial black eye! I think he must have hit himself with something. But I never saw him cry or anything. And I'm horrified someone will call child services on me!

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Claire--My dh loves Ely and is great with him, but somehow I also end up with all the responsibility. He doesnt know nap time or food stuff or anything, and really never has been the one to deal with food or sleep--I always thought it was because I was nursing, but DH took Ely to the hardware store the other day with him and I realized it is the first time DH has taken him anywhere without me. Wierd. I also think I am to blame--I never ask for him to do that stuff, and I kind of WANT to be the one to do it, but then I get annoyed/resentful when he doesnt know stuff. I realize that I cant have it both ways, but it is annoying. We have no family or friends in the area, so sometimes I feel like everything falls on ME, and I have no safety net. I also make the majority of our household income, yet it is ME that has to cancel work or rearrange my day to deal with Ely when he is sick or needs shots or a test or something. I feel like it is unfair sometimes, but then I realize that I WANT to be the one that takes him to those things, so I dont know why I get so mad at DH.

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Rhea - I have no problems telling DH its his turn on weekends - he usually says 'I'll get the next one' and of course there ISN'T a next one!! And I get super annoyed when he tries to roll over and go back to sleep when Kieran gets up on the weekends. He thinks its funny during the week that I have to sometimes get up as early as he does for work... not so funny when I say he should get up with us on the weekends too and that there's no such thing as sleeping in anymore!!

Krissy - My DH is great with Kieran too. I think what I get annoyed with most is that he's "fun daddy" whereas I have to do all the not so fun stuff.

Everyone got me nervous and I took his temp which is normal - wouldn't it be high if it was an ear infection?

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Irene- Well, it stands to reason I guess that an ear infection would cause a temp. But I can't actually answer that. It might be something totally different, but it did sound more like a comfort issue than a stubborn one.

Krissy- IKWYM! I kind of like being the #1, too. But I do get irritated when DH says thinks like "now how many oz do I make his bottle?"

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Rhea - I agree now! I guess I probably would have thought that at first too except that its exactly how he used to be a few months ago. It just didn't even occur to me that he might be sick... which makes me feel like a really bad mommy

How about when he asks where we keep the burp cloths?!? That one shouldn't surprise me though since he still asks where his socks are after I've been putting away his laundry for almost 9 years!!!

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Irene- LOL! I don't think DH has ever strapped D into the car seat. He always makes me do it.

Don't feel like a bad mommy! It's totally normal! I have to admit, when Donovan is acting weird like that and just screaming in a tone that isn't normal at bedtime, I'll pic him up and give him some tylenol, JIC

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Krissy - I sooooo understand how you feel. Everything falls on me. I am having a hard time emotionally right now b/c I realized how much I do and it is getting so hard for me to do it. I am not complaining and love every minute with Jackson, but I am WORN OUT. Dh and I had a big talk about it last week, and he told me just to ask him and he would help. The next night, he sighed and acted all put out when I asked him to give Jackson his bath - b/c its hard for me to lift and sit on the floor next to the tub!
Oh, and I finally got a night off to get a massage on friday (and not pick Jackson up) and dh forgot to pick Jackson up at school! I was finally a little relaxed and I turn my phone on to a vmail from the school asking where we were! I was so upset. I know dh has alot of work stuff going on, but I really need to know that I can count on him so I can break away and relax. Ugh!!!

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OMG, Jen- that sucks that dh forgot to pick up jackson. I KWYM about DH saying "just ask for my help" and then acting all put out. My dh does the same thing!

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Hello ladies!

I feel like I havent been here in AGES!

So Ky was sick and she HATED getting her nose wiped or suctioned out. It was TERRIBLE! She would just turn her head left to right and cry cry cry!

Jen - Sorry to hear about your few incidents...Im sure DH will get better...

So Ky is FINALLY starting to have some teeth to start breaking through. I dont know when they will be all the way out of course but they are breaking through her gums...its so cute!

BUT then I wonder if she will bite me when BF...MAN OH MAN!!!

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