My fiance and I are TTC #2 for about six months now and i feel like he's quiting on me. Its like i have to get him to BD. I dont want him to think that i only want to to get pg. Any ideas on how to spice things up a bit?

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Heather~ Communication is the key. You and DH need to sit down and have a long conversation about this. You both need to be on the same page about TTC. If he's wanting to back down you need to find out what's going on. Don't stop talking about it until it is resolved.

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Thanks Regina, I know he still wants another baby. I think whats happening is that he's not used to it taking so long to get pg. He doesnt really understand how hard it is to get pg and how timing is key. With our first we conceived within three months. I just want BD to be exciting and not like a chore.

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I understand. I got PG with DD on the first try. That was 5 1/2 years ago. Now I'm TTC #2 for 2 years Good luck to you Heather.

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Heather- Welcome to the world of ttc

My dh is the same.He feels that he's under pressure to " perform" and that he's being used.
He reckons that it would be so much easier if I seduced him and we could take our time at it a bit more,but I keep telling him that I don't always feel like bding and would like to just get it over and done with.
And he doesn't realise that he's not the only one who's under pressure.

We usually have a great sex life but for those few most important fertile days it does become mechanical.I do try to be enthusiastic but it's not always possible.

Regina is right, talking does help,me and dh had this conversation a couple of nights ago after a failed attempt at bding but managed to finish the job afterwards

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i think DH and I have talked to much about it. i cant help but being baby obsessed right now. thank god for my friend robin. shes been awaesome. we can talk about for ever and get it out of our systems. that way my hubby doesnt feel the pressure. and it helps me to relax and not be so stressed about it. i just casually let him know im ovulating (im using those kits now) and leave it at that. that way we can enjoy the practicing

I'm actually going through the same thing...my dh was very reluctant to have a baby right now, he wanted to wait at least a year...after much persuasion he finally gave in(when I say gave in I don't mean forced!!) These last few weeks he's been working long hours and coming home really tired...I was feeling stressed and lonely one day and I just wanted to be close to him so I proposed we do the bd...well he wasn't really in the mood and when I asked him what was going on he started telling me that if he had to work the next day he just didn't feel up to do the bd...anyway to make a long story short he hinted that he felt pressured to have to do the bd just so we could conceive...I tried to ease his mind telling him that wasn't the only reason to do the bd, he still seems to think thats why I wanna ravish him every day but hopefully I can get him to understand that theres no pressure...

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what is BD?

Hey elle, 'BD' is 'baby-dance', aka intercourse. There is a thread with all the ttc lingo...let me find the link.

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Here's the one I'm thinking of: Lingo

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