Lost, I think ending things with him was the best thing to do. And you're right, if he did it with you, he could do it to you. I'm so sorry for you though. You and your heart didn't deserve this. The fact is, we women have a tendency to let our hearts rule our minds, and sometimes, men will take advantage of that. Don't beat yourself up. All of us have put on the blinders when there's something we don't want to see, and when we're in love. I don't know him, so I won't call him an outright scoundrel, but I do know that you are better off without him. He has a whole other mess to deal with with his wife--too much baggage for you. As for the 2ww, there is nothing you can do now. Come what may, you are strong and brave, and you will get through this. For now, try not to worry overly much. Cross that bridge when you get to it. Hang in there, okay. ((((hugs))))

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Thanks everyone. I really appreciate it. I thought I would hear a lot of i told you sos from family and friends and coworkers and such...or tell me i sould have done this or that....a few have been like that...but most have been just as appalled as me and very supportive.

As for my heart....I don't know about it yet. I really don't know about any of it yet.

It's like I'm lost in the middle of nowhere and I have NO idea which direction to move forth in.

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Yes Wendy...that crossed my mind for a moment.

Or maybe something is going on and he wants kids and she doesn't. Maybe he already has kids and wants more but she refuses.

I don't know what the deal is. I hope to talk to him soon and get some answers...get the truth.

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I know. He texted me telling me he loves me and wants to work something out...like I said before.

You're right...I probably won't get the truth. I will get a sob story of how his marriage is horrible and how he's trying to get a divorce but she's not going along with it yadda yadda.

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Marie - I have to agree with Wendy that this really can't go anywhere good. I agree that you should just let him go and not look back. I am so sorry for you. Nobody deserves to be treated like that, and you deserve better than what it did to you.

I know. Thanks.

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To my knowledge they're still living together.

I called his house Sunday (he said his phone was supposed to be disconnected...I called to see if he was telling the truth)

...she answered the phone, so I asked for him...she said he isn't here right now this is his wife, can I help you? I said you just did, this is his GF...then she hung up.

That was it....

I asked hnim about it and he denied it. He told me to search the marriage records that I wouldn't find anything that he's not married I must have called the wrong number that he loves ME and wants to marry and have a family with me.

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Marie - Be strong and hold on to your convictions. You deserve to be treated with respect, as we all do. We've all been in situations that turned out for the worst (at least I have) and I got through it. You will too. You're still young and have a lot of life to live. You will find that one special person... he is out there.

I dated a man once who lived in another state. He took me on a European vacation, flew me to NH several times etc... about a month after we broke up (because he couldn't give me what I wanted.....), his fiance called. The rest is history. I understand your pain.

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Marie, stay away from him at all costs. He doesnt deserve you and he shouldnt even get to speak to you. I know it is not easy, but you have to protect yourself and put him out of you mind for good.

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Marie~ Best case scenario. Even if he wasn't married and it was all a misunderstanding. He still lied to you about disconnecting the phone.

Don't let him pull the wool over your eyes. It's obvious he is married AND he tried to lie about it, by telling you the phone was disconnected.

There's no excuse in this world that could make it better.

Even if he was separated or in the middle of a divorce or whatever, he should have told you up front.

Don't waste your heart on him anylonger.

GO and don't look back. Don't ever let him where to find you again.

P.S. Whether you take the advise or not, we're here for you.

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Thanks you guys.

I got the story I expected...he's going through a divorce...his attorney hasn't gotten the papers to him yet and that's why she's still living with him....he didn't tell me because he thought it would all be taken care of before it really got serious with us.

Well, he's the one who expedited the relationship.

He's the one who lied PERIOD from DAY ONE about everything.

I will never believe another word he says.

Thanks you all for the support and advice.

I'm trying to move on and do what I can...my heart is still pulling for him though.

We'll see what happens. I may stay in touch with him as a friend, no SEX no relationship...nothing but friendship.

At least that way I'll see the truth unfold and his life fall apart.

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Marie~ Wendy took the words right out of my finger tips!!!

I really feel for you. I know what it's like when your heart is still in it, but you need to never talk to him again. Don't go looking for answers. It's all going to be a lie. Just leave him be in all his mess!!!

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Marie - I agree with the other girls. You can't be friends with someone you love who lied to you in that way. Eventually you will give into him and he will continue to lie because he knows he can get away with it.

On another note, you are still in the two week wait! How are you feeling about that? Do you plan to test soon? Are you having any symptoms?

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