My boyfriend and I live about an hour and a half apart and we are both extremely busy. I love him with all of my heart and he feels the same for me, but it's so HARD especially since we're trying to conceive. We've been talking about marriage (I'm still waiting and hoping for a proposal soon)...and also about moving in together. I feel that these will be two MAJOR topics of conversation after next Tuesday when we go to Savannah together. I guess my advice is...how do I push the issue of wanting us to move in together and get married...without pushing him??

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I think when he is ready- he will ask! But tell him that it is something you want in the near future & if he doesn't see that in his future then it obviously is a waste of both your time! That is what I told DH a while ago- but you have to wait until the time is right & don't push. Marriage and having a child are both very big steps so it is something that should DEFINATLEY TAKE TIME. But that is just my opinion!

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If you are not even sure about moving in and a proposal on the way then why are you trying to conceive?

Forrest and I lived 10 hours apart, he was the one who pushed for us to get engaged and then married. He moved to the area I lived in the first of last year, and we were married in May 2005. Pleae note we both are divorced and older, maybe that has something to do with it too.

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Lost~ I agree with Wendy 100%.

Does you SO even know you're TTC? I hope that's a decision that you both have made.

When I was in my early 20's I was head over heals in love with my BF who I was dating for 4 yrs. When I accidentally got PG, he wanted me to get an abortion. I wouldn't, but ended up m/c. Needless to say, that was the end of our relationship. I thought he would have been just as happy as I was. Boy was I wrong!

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If you are already trying to concieve, it seems you already have a commitment together.

TTC is probably thee biggest life altering decision you will make. Moving in together is minor compareds to that.

Being a guy, it doesnt even make much sense that I would try to have a baby with somebody I don't even live with. It is one thing if it is an accident, but completely different if you are trying!

My advice is to put TTC on the back burner until you at least live together. Marriage can come later. Let's see if you can even stand being in the same house 24-7 first lol.

Lost~ I have to agree with Jer. It IS the BIGGEST life altering decision you will make. My dd was planned and I still would have never imagined it to be as difficult as it is sometimes. Yet alone add relationship issues to it can create a bad mixture. Going through custody over dd with ex, was probably the worsed. He made my life a living he*l. I couldn't do anything or go anywhere without his approval. It sucked.

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I too agree with Jeremy, it might be hard but at least consider his advice, he is a man!

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Jer~ Thanks for sharing your point of view. It's nice to have a guys opinion on things like this.

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Well...we had the conversation.

Last night he said "Tuesday we're gonna talk about something that will take care of us not being together physically"....

So, we will probably discuss moving in then. I told him he needed to hop on it because I need to put in for a transfer at work and transfer to a closer college as well.

He also said "Marie, I know I am going to ask you to marry me. I don't know when. I don't know how. I don't know where. But you need not worry...I know I am going to ask you."

We both want a baby...that's why we're trying to conceive. The current situation hasn't allowed us to move in together or even think about it...because I've been working and in school here...and he's been working there.

I'm getting impatient, but it will come in time. In fact, today he started talking about us buying a house together. That's a big step. So, I'm hopeful it's moving faster now.

We haven't been together terribly long...but we've been together long enough to know that we only want each other.

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Marie~ Sounds promising. I'm so happy for you and I pray that everything works out for you both.

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Will be praying for you on this.....

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I don't think a proposal is coming Tuesday...but I think he's going to ask me to move in with him.

As far as TTC, I feel that it's going to take me a while to conceive...so I want to start trying now. We both want a child. I'm young, yes I know. He is still young, he's 26...but when something is right it's just right.

woops...that was me.

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Wendy~ I don't think that you're impatient. I think you know what is right.

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