Ok, I've kept this pent up to myself for several weeks now, and you ladies all seem very helpful, so I'll come here to rant.

We decided we're gonna TTC in May of next year. DH is excited and eager but he doesn't like to talk about it.

ALL I want to do is talk about baby stuff. My brain is baby stuff 24/7.

This is causing weird conversation lapses between us. We'll be sitting on the couch not talking and I'll ask DH what's up and he'll be like, "I can't think of anything to talk about because I know what YOU want to talk about."

I know we've got a while to wait till it's baby makin' time, but I'm SOOOOOOOOO excited now. He keeps saying I need to "tone it down a bit" and think about other things. Am I being too excitable?

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I'm the same way - I love to talk about baby stuff! Fortunately so does my DH. Sometimes I would think he was getting sick of hearing about it, but then out of the blue he's showing me baby furniture and toys that he found on the internet. So, I don't think you're getting too excited. Is there a reason you are waiting until next year to start ttc? My Dh and I decided to wait, too, and I regret it now because it's been almost 2 years now and no BFP for us (I was on Depo Provera and then the patch, though, so that could be why it's taking me so long). Since your Dh doesn't want to talk about it, don't worry, you have us here to talk to. I know it would be nice if your Dh would talk with you about it, too, though.

SZ~ I don't think you're too excited either. Once my mind was made up to TTC. That's all I want. Are you sure your DH is ready to have kids? Maybe when it comes time for you to try to start TTC, then maybe his mind will be more excited about it.

Wendy~ I'm lucky too. Sometimes I think DH wants one more than I do.

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Regina - I've pretty much determined that, too. All the times that I've said I'm not ttc anymore, Dh has always said that yes we are. He always jokes with me and says that I just want the gear. Of course that's not true (that I just want the gear), but it's funny nonetheless.

There's about a billion reasons we're waiting. One is because my little sister is getting married next spring and I don't want to be PG for the wedding since I'm in it.

Another reason is that I'm not convinced that DH is really excited about it. We've talked about it, and he grins and gets all starry eyed, but he doesn't want to talk about it 24/7 like I do. Like, I was looking at baby crib bedding online and I would send him pictures and he'd just roll his eyes.

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I don't think you're being too excited either. Planning for a baby is a big thing, even if it is months away, theres always new things to talk about and learn about as far as TTC goes. I think my DH got more interested into it as he learned more, when I bought the book Taking Control of Your Fertility, he read it with me, even did a presentation for one of his classes about TTC. He doesn't get all crazy like I do about baby clothes or when we see newborns. But he does understand how I am feeling and lets me go on and on when I do see them or when I buy little baby clothes. I did get a little frustrated at first, mistaking it for him not wanting what I did, but it wasn't that. He said it was when I was pregnant would he start to get excited, as it can be a little mentally exhausting when month after month you build yourself up only to have to start over again. (Hopefully that wont happen for you, but it happened for us) So, I know that if anything, hes just being paitent and is holding off on getting excited until we've actually conceived.

With everything to know about TTC and pregnancy, its no wonder we get excited. Not only that but to actually get to have our little babies is such a powerful feeling. Just try to explain to him why you're excited and try and find out why he isn't. Pick up some books and read them with him and get him to learn more about TTC. Learning together has brought my DH and I closer.

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Scarzilla - Your Dh doesn't exactly sound like he's that into it, but then again men are all different. Maybe that's just his personality to act like that about things. Does he do that about other things you are excited about? My Dh wouldn't dare roll his eyes at me (so I could see it anyway ). Hehe I can even tell if he's thinking about rolling his eyes . I think you're being wise to wait until he's more ready and it's nice of you to consider your sister's wedding, too.

SZ~ Ya, sounds like he's really not ready yet. Hang out with us though b/c you can talk all the baby talk with us. This forum is full of some real knowledgable people about TTC. The moderaters Rebecca(rac) and Lisa(mom2girls) are great when it comes to charting. We'll help you out as much as possible so when it comes time for you and your DH to TTC, you should be full of TTC knowledge.

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I don't think there is anything wrong with being VERY excited about it! I am the same way, and have been for several months now. I don't think that you can expect the same kind of excitement from dh, as you have. I know my dh is excited, but he just doesnt express it the same way, and I just dont think that men feel the same longing for a child that we do...

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LOL Lauren - I can definitely tell you're excited. You're the one with the ttc cheerleader in your signature.

SZ~ Cristina had a really great idea. BOOKS! I used to leave my books in the bathroom. DH would read them. He would tell me about what he read later that evening.

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OMG Books are such a good idea! He always reads while he's on his "throne". I could leave my baby books in the bathroom and maybe he'll pick one up once in a while.

He did do the cutest thing, though. Yesterday my friend had brought over her 3 week old baby and he was watching her change and feed her. Then when we went to bed, he randomly said "that baby was really cute." It made my heart melt because he usually doesn't admit to stuff like that.

I guess he isn't very open and gushy about his feelings, and sometimes I kinda forget that. He has told me before that he is excited, but he doesn't think I should be getting so excited so early. *shrug* I guess each person is different.

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SZ~ We'll be excited for you !

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Scarzilla - my Dh brings his laptop with him to the throne Oops maybe I shouldn't be sharing that hehe.

DH talks about it as much as I do, so I feel pretty lucky about it too. But for right now you may want to tone it down a little bit. There are other aspects of your marriage you can focus on, it shouldn't be the only thing you guys are talking about.

TTC is stressful enough without it being the focus.

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Wendy don't give my DH any ideas, when he is home he is on his computer way too much as it is. I don't want him taking it to the bathroom too, he would never come out!

Scarzilla, I think it is wonderful you are excited and planning ahead!

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Lisa -

I think thats perfectly normal, I am the same way, ever since my husband and I decided to try and conceive all I can think and talk about is baby stuff, At first my husband dint want to talk too much about it, but now he is comming around. Its different for guys I think, they need to get use to the idea and then after they see the reality of it then they come around more and start to talk about it. Give your husband time, and in time he will come around and want to talk more about it, Also even though you guys decided on a time to start TTC, you might start even ea