Oh goodness Krissy, thank you! You emotional preggo! I really appreciate it. Can't wait to see all you ladies on the baby side....it is soooo slowwwww unfortunately. I wish the TTC and IF threads would just disappear altogether and everyone was over here.

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Kayla-I don't think I had read your birth story before and I could TOTALLY relate to that urge to push and not being able to! I remember starting to get out of bed and casually saying "I have to go to the bathroom" and the nurse saying "NO, NO, that is you wanting you to push" I guess I still had that "lip" of a cervix left, but that was the hardest thing of all my labor, the not being able to push when I had that urge. (of course if I hadn't gotten the epi right after, I am sure the pushing and tearing would've been the hardest, lol).

Krissy-I think I will forever just be much more emotional (and I was pretty emotional before!) since having a baby. I have a friend who labored at home without drugs for close to 48hours, but she was determined to do it naturally and said that helped her get through it.

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UGH-Ok another one of my IL vents. My SIL and grandmother just left. This is the first they have even seen me preggo by the way. My invites went out for the shower my friends are throwing. If you remember it was supposed to be just my girlfirends but now my MIL, SIL and grandmother are being invited because they didn't want to go to the family one my sister is throwing. Well they have the nerve to ask if their extended family was sent invites. Mind you none of them haven't done a thing for us. DH blew up (thankfully we already had this conversation in prep for this happening). He told them no that we don't talk to or see any of them. He then said it's too late now. My SIL had the nerve to say "no it's not they just went out". I told her my friends are throwing this shower and paying for everything, if they would like to do something as a family that's fine but I can't expect my friends to pay for all these other people as the deal was 20-25 people since it's at my friends house. I'm just glad DH stepped up and told them off. It is so irritating that they just expect everyone else to pay for their family to attend these types of functions. We haven't even seen any of them in 3 years!

Then my SIL, who if you also remember DH thought we should let move in because she doesn't really want to work says how may be she'll quit her job and babysit for us. Uh I don't think so. She can't even afford to fed her dog, can barely make her truck payment as it is and I think I overheard the grandmother say soemthing about her filing for bankrupcy! I told her I wouldn't be able to pay her enough to make it worth her while to drive over here. She better not even go to DH with this hair brained idea because he'll probably want to give her the chance. I just don't trust her as she often calls into work and can't afford for her to screw me over when she doesn't want to get out of bed and be here at 6am!

Ok I'm done......none of my family was home so I could bitch to then. Guess I'll have to wait til tomorrow when DH leaves for out of town work to finish my bitching!

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coming over to check in on Jo. You still hanging in there? Hope everyone is well.

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So its official I am pregnant!! =) We are so excited we have had two pregnancy's end in m/c BUT that is not an option this time around we feel its different oh yeah and im not thinking negatively this time Im only allowing happy positive thoughts in my head =) Our due date is April 17 only 5 days after my birthday.!! We are planning on doing a natural birth with an epi right there should I need one I am sure I will be asking alot of questions please wish us luck!!

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Congratulations Allison!! Welcome to the pg side!!

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CONGRATULATIONS Alison! Welcome! We needed some new blood; it has been very slow over here lately. Hopefully you start a new trend of BFP'S! Can't wait to get to know you.

Heidi--Your in-laws are nuts. And incredibly rude. So are mine, so I totally understand how frustrating it is. At least it sounds like DH realizes how weird they are being. Good luck with the shower!

Jo--Are you still here? Jo has a buddy, right? I think Betsy offered, or am I mistaken?

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Heidi - Sorry about the inlaws, again. Glad to hear DH stood up for ya'll.

Hi to everyone else!

Yesterday was a busy day. We took the dogs to training for 3 weeks. I know it is good for them, but I miss them already. The house is so quiet.
My parents came in & my SIL had her first shower. Then my mom & I went to BRU & I got the crib mattress and helped her pick a gift for my SIL's 2nd shower next weekend.

From what I can tell, it sounds like all of your DH's are handling pregancy well & totally ready for the baby. My DH has always been a social person, but I think he is freaking out about the changes, b/c he is going out with the guys more often & staying out later, even though I've asked him not to. We aren't communicating well & I am stressing about it. It sucks b/c it took us 2 yrs to get pregnant & I thought he would be totally ready. Anyone else dealt with something similar? Sorry, having a rough weekend dealing with it.

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Wow. I'm really sort of peeved. I just got denied to join a "Mommy Meetup Group" because I'm employed.

"We do advertize as a stay at home mom's group, and
therefore, most of our events are held during the daytime. I
saw in your profile that you are pregnant and you still work,
so I'm not sure if this group will be what you're looking for."

I work night shift(which was clearly stated, daytime is better for me, anything after 6 is pretty much not possible). Totally irrelevant. And at least have the courtesy to SPELL CHECK. Kthx. Presumptuous witch. The whole letter was rather demeaning.

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Amber--I don't think that sounds like the type of people you would want to be around! What a snot! I hate the groups that say they are only for "stay at home moms", and I also am not fond of the groups that are only for "working moms". A mom is a mom, and I think how you pay your bills should be irrelevant. It is just a way to judge other women for doing things differently than you, and I often wish that women could find ways of being less judgemental. Ugh. Are there other groups out there that you could join?

Jen--I'm sorry that DH is acting strange. Perhaps he is spending extra time with the guys because he just needs a break from pregnancy and baby talk. I think it can be pretty overwhelming for men. For us, we have no choice b/c the baby is with us all the time, but for them; it must feel like their fun wives were suddenly replaced with weepy, gassy, baby obsessed girls with huge bellies! Maybe the guys just help him level out a little. I would try and talk with him openly about it. Let him have a beer while you talk (that always seems to get my DH more relaxed and willing to say what he means instead of what he thinks I want him to say), and just tell him that you are concerned and want to know how he feels and what is going on. You guys tried for so long, maybe he is just trying to fit in some degree of normalcy before the baby gets here. Going from such active ttc to pregnancy, he may just crave being around someone without a uterus. Good luck; I hope things get better. And in all fairness; my dh might do the same thing but we don't have any friends in the area (we are still pretty new here), so he is pretty much forced to be around me all the time! Yes, he's been awesome, but I think that if we lived in our old town he would probably be acting the same way as yours.

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Krissy- After that note I don't really care to hang out with the snots anyway. I wouldn't have applied if I couldn't make the events, so it's really just a BS type answer. It's just kinda disrespectful. It's like everyone around here is either really well off or really not so the "in-between" are just kinda stuck. It's kinda aggravating.

Jen- I have the opposite problem. I wish my DH would make friends but he just won't. He's actually uber clingy all the sudden which isn't bad but I really think he needs social interaction outside of our marriage. As antisocial as we tend to be I even manage to go hang out with... Well sadly I think she is my only friend(within 3 hours), every so often. I think his issue is a combination of things. He has now been "clean" for 2ish years, and when he left rehab he realized he had to drop all of his so-called friends if he wanted to straighten out. I don't think he knows where to start now. Anyway, that somehow turned into a "me" rant, what I was attempting to say is that maybe he's really nervous now that you have a little one on the way and it's his way of responding. I think everyone gets sorta weirded out when you realize your life is never gonna be the same again, only they have a little more ability to respond because they aren't carrying the baby. Sheesh. Thinking about it makes me wanna go out and have a few drinks.

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Jen, I think sometimes men just panic a bit about the huge change and the responsiblities that come with pregnancy. I bought Dh a book while I was pg with my first called "She is having a baby, I am having a breakdown" It was a really funny book aimed at making it easier for dads to cope with all the stuff. My Dh never read it but I did and when I saw things from his perspective it was easier to have patience with him.

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Allison-Cpngrats and welcome to the pg side!

Jen-My DH went through some similar stuff. At the beginning he was drinking a bit more and hanging out with the guys when I needed him to be home. I think it was his "oh shit" moment about how life is changing. He has calmed down and I think now enjoys hanging more at home, drinking if he wants and spending time together. I try to give him space and I've been trying to spend time with my friends as I know initially I will be too busy. We definitely have our moments with comminuication as well. I swear men only half listen so sometimes I make him turn everything off and listen to me. And I remind him I'm a woman and sometimes all I need is for him to listen and let me bitch. I don't think any amount of time totally prepares us for what is about to come. Hang in there and just keep talking it out.

Amber-I agree they don't sound like women you want to hang with.

Krissy-My ILs are nuts! I've come to realize that we are very different in the way we were raised and what we were exposed to. They did the same stuff when we got married so I'm trying not to let it get to me too much and thankfully DH has been understanding.

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Oh, Jo?!?!? Where are you????

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I am in such a blah mood today. I cant seem to shake the laziness!! I have a question did any of you experiance cramping and back pain at random times throuout early pregancy?? I get weird little cramps here and there or my back will hurt like menstrual type pain. . . just wondering if this is common or if I should be on the lookout for any problems

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I'm here! We just got back from our childbirth class. I am totally on board for the whole natural thing, now. I'm looking forward to it crazily. We did a lot of relaxation/coping techniques. It was very helpful for DH and he is now excited for it to get going. We had a really great instructor.

I will be working on my birth plan tonight so I can discuss it with my doctor tomorrow at my appt.

Alison- Welcome to the pg side!!! Menstrual pain is very common and will come and go throughout the entire pg.

Jen- I agree with the other gals, DH must be having a selfish "omg" moment. My DH had one too and just had to work through the realization that our world is going to change, but it's for the better. I went through a silent stage around him where I curtailed talk about the pg. Luckily, he is with his male relatives every Thursday night (they get together and make dinner once a week) and his uncle was talking to him about the support that a woman needs during her pg. He also was given the book that was mentioned earlier. That helped his attitude, too.

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Are any of you ladies considered high risk? I am and Im just wondering if the appointments are different?? Or if Im suppose to meet with the Dr. more frequently??

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