Someone posted this on FF and I thought it was good...

This is a list of things that people would never say to someone who was a paraplegic yet say similar things to us who are TTC or struggle with Infertility. (use your imagination to figure how each things relates to infertility).

I couldn't stop laughing and it is soooo true! I am not sure who originally wrote this but I think it is very clever.

If we were paralyzed instead of infertile, would people say this to us??

As soon as you buy a wheelchair, I bet you'll be able to walk again!

Boy, I wish I were paralyzed. I get so tired of walking, and if I were paralyzed I wouldn't have to walk everywhere!

My cousin was paralyzed, but she started shaving her legs in the other direction and she could walk again. You should try that.

I guess God just didn't mean for you to be able to walk.

Oh, I know exactly how you feel, because I have an ingrown toenail.

Sorry, we don't cover your treatment for paraplegia because it's not a life-threatening illness.

Oh, I have just the opposite problem, I have to walk walk walk everywhere I go.

You're just trying to hard, relax and you'll be able to walk.

You're SO lucky...Think of the money you save on shoes!

I don't know why you are being so selfish! You should at least be happy that I can walk!!

I hope you don't try those anti-paralyzation drugs. They sometimes make people run too fast and they get hurt.

Look at those people hiking ... doesn't that make you want to hike?

Do you want to rub my legs? That might help you walk and give you luck.

Take a vacation and you'll walk!

I just ran a marathon and won. Let me tell you all about it and show you my medal and tell you how everyone is doting on me!

Here is a special walking shoe pendant. If you put it under your pillow then it will help you walk. Three other people who limped because of sprains and were so worried are walking just fine now.

You are just too worried about never walking, it's all in your head! If you stop thinking about it so much, it will happen.

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I love it!!!

just forwarded it to a few of my friends - who sometimes do and don't get it.

I just realized - I'm going to be all alone on the infertility board.

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Betsy - You're not alone over here. This really is where I belong, I just can't bring myself to posting here......

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Betsy- you are not alone here, i should be here too, its just that i like the TTC for over 6 months more. I´ll be here if you need me.

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Betsy - I'm sure you'll be successful on your second try. I think you're more on your way out of this section then I am.

And no, you're not alone, I'm sure I'll be keeping you and others company for a very long time.

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This is truly priceless.


Betsy, you definitely are not alone over here. Just because I conceived doesn't mean I'm no longer "infertile". If we ever were to decide to try and have another, I'd be right back here. To be honest, this is where I feel most comfortable, even with a current pregnancy. I just will never, ever forget what it is like to be on this side of the boards.

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Sarah - it's almost like being an addict? - once an addict always an addict?

I think of you often and when you went through your 1st IVF by yourself. I was glad to see you had the other girls to go through it this time.

As much as I want several children with Carlos I don't think my heart would be able to take it. I may cut my losses and be grateful for the one.

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I loved it too, so I borrowed it to post it over here!

Betsy~ Don't do that to yourself!!! I should be here too, and I am sometimes, but I love my friends on ttc over 6, so that is where I go. I love you guys and we dont have to "label" ourselves. We just need to support one another regardless...

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Lauren - Its not so much about labeling ourselves, I don't like doing that. I think its more so about finding a spot where you are most comfortable at, that includes not having to see newly TTC couples getting their BFP's after only 1 month of TTC. I know that bothers a lot of people, its nothing against the couples that it happens to, its just a hard thing to take.

I understand what you're saying though.

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Cristina~ That was my point, that we need to be supportive of each other and not have to feel that we can't post in certain places, because of time limits. It always amazes me to see the women on ff who are so hateful to one another when someone posts somewhere that they "don't belong." That is what I love about this site. I feel very frustrated myself to see the 1 monthers get bfps... I was not trying to disagree with you.

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I didnt think you were trying to disagree with me. I guess I misunderstood.

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Bets~ You're not alone. I'm right here with you. And like Cristina said, I too think you're closer to being out of here and on the PG side. You're way more ahead with the fertility treatments than I am. I'm just getting around to making my phone call tomorrow. I too have been in denial thinking DH and me can get PG on our own.
{{Group hug}}

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Regina - That's cause I bypassed alot of the stupid doctors. My first ob-gyn told me I had no chance at all of getting pregnant.

The next 3 weren't much help either.

And then this dr took me straight to IUI. I have a feeling I may have to take a few steps back in order to get to where I need to go.

So I sent this e-mail to about 10 friends. My responses so far were as follows.

1- one e-mailed me back and said she had friends that were interracial & people told them that was why they couldn't coneive cause it was unnatural.

2-My friend Michelle who's been there every step of the way - laughed her ass off.

3- another friend who I had cut off for a while said "wow, I guess the insemination didn't work"

That was it so far.

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Betsy~

I'm glad you have a Dr supporting you now.

To your friend 1. I can't believe people would say that about interacial couples. That's just ignorance.

friend 2. I'm sorry but I don't think there was anything funny about that list at all in the slightest!

friend 3. Sounds like your friend is at a loss for words and doesn't how what to say to support you.

Maybe I just don't have a sense of humor, but that list really wasn't funny. I can understand the parallisms. It's a good eye opener to show non TTCers the similarities, but it's not funny

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I'm sorry Regina.
Maybe I should not have posted that list. It seems to have caused some problems.

I just thought it was really good because it does put into perspective that infertility is a disease, and people do not often see it that way. I thought it was an interesting way to look at it.

Sorry for all of those I have upset.

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Lauren~ It's not that you shouldn't have posted that. We all do what we need to, to get by. I'm not downing you for you being able to laugh at it. Me on the other hand, I'm just not able to laugh at it. To me it would be like laughing at the paralyzed people.

It hits home with me and brings back a bad memory in the sense that when my grandma was alive and in her first stages of dementia, a family friend was over and made a comment like "Wow, what a trip. That's kind of neat that she didn't even have to take any drugs to get like that"! I wasn't there when it happened, but when I heard about that comment, I cried for my grandma

I do understand what the similarieites are though, and I thought that was good.

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Regina, I don't know if Lauren was laughing at it necessarily. I don't know that anyone was laughing at it. I don't think any of us laugh at our infertility or paralyzed people. More than anything, I think it is poking fun at the people who are ignorant as opposed to the people who are suffering from the problem. Sometimes we have to remember people are stupid in order to not to feel bad about the things that are said to us. And I think the comment your family friend made about your grandmother was incredibly insensitive and tactless.

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