Jen - Happy Anniversary! My 7th anniversary is Sunday, so we got married only days apart!

Jen ~ Happy Anniversary! I just posted on the TTC thread I'm a Team Aniston member. Love her. I want to be her BFF. I want to brush her hair and go shopping with her. Okay, I probably sound way creepy, but I love her. I have been to the People's Choice Awards a few times and I missed getting a picture with her by like 30 seconds. My friends mom got a picture with her. I have a picture with Matt LeBlanc and Matthew Perry though. So, yes, I did see that episode of Dirt with her on.

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Melissa and Jen... you have to get caught up with Nip/Tuck. The Season Finale was two weeks ago and all I will say is OMG!!!!! I can't believe they left it hanging like that. Now I have to wait till September! UGH!

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Thanks girls! You know you've been married a while when DH plans a business trip on the day of your anniversary & you don't get upset.

Meredith - How cool! March is a great month to get married!

Rebecca - I think it is still in our DVR list. I'll defnitely have to watch it!

Melissa - You crack me up! I feel the same way about her, in a very non-stalker kind of way. I can;t believe you saw her in person! She's super tiny, right? & you have pics with Joey & Chandler. I am so jealous! Can u post them?
I am totally on Team Aniston, but speaking of Angie - a friend worked on "Life or Something Like it" with her & said she's really cool. But then I also heard her head is oddly large & her body oddly small. They said she looks kind of alien, but it loosk great on the big screen.

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Rebecca ~ I'll definitely try and watch tonight - I've been swamped with progress report grades and AP Bio reading

Jen ~ I'll post the pics tonight. My friends mom, the one who got a picture with Jennifer Aniston also met Angelina Jolie at some awards show earlier this year, I forget which one, it wasn't People's Choice, SAG or Oscars though. Anyway, my friend was texting me the entire time she was there and told me that her mom burst into tears in front of Angelina Jolie! So I text back, "Because she's a homewrecker? She better hold onto her husband!"

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Deanna-No real snow yet. We got a little freezing rain mixture last night. But apparently we're supposed to get 3-5 inches may be today into tomorrow. All I know is its March and this is ridiculous! My backyard is like an ice skating rink! I hope AF stays away too.

Betsy-Feeling ok. But have to say that I'm finding myself starting to get down. It's so hard to stay positive once in the 2ww.......its in the back of my mind that if this doesn't work then WTF. I'm trying to look at that we still have an IUI covered but that'll have to be done by August. Really starting to feel the pressure a bit. And then to think once we have out of pocket pay for stuff are we really going to continue. You know all the usual BS that comes with IF. sounds like you had a fabulous weekend and much deserved. What's going on with RESOLVE?

Jen and Meredith-Happy anniversary to both of you.

Jen-I think I spent my anniversary last year alone too because DH was traveling. Hope yours makes up for it with that nice dinner on Friday! Glad you don't have any sticks to pee on either. It deifnitely keeps me from being tempted to test.

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hey girls.

i figured id rejoin you all at the beginning of the month, and not at the end. took me hours to read everything.

so heres my life in a nutshell. still working on getting into nursing school. retaking the test on sat. the director said it would be a good idea to raise my scores. give myself a better chance of getting in. were gonnna keep tryin until i get my letter of acceptance. so i havent started BC yet.

this month looks pretty promosing. i ovulated and we timed BD very well. even though DH is sick. hes determined. so my fingers are crossed.

I hope all is well with you ladies. ive still been lurking even though i havent posted until now.

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Heidi -I would encourage you to go the IUI route. You are already doing the injection part, that's the hardest part. The actual IUI is not a big deal. Emotionally it's tough but again, you are 75% there with already doing the injections. The resolve thing has alot of red tape attached to it. It's really stupid. Because I have an 11 year old child they want to give me a seconday infertility group.....uhhhh I don't want a secondary infertility group. I went to one of those. And being in a room with 15 women who already have babies in diapers and were crying cause they haven't gotten pregnant in the last 6 months and it's probably because of breastfeeding was not my cup of tea. Meanwhile I had been trying to give Carlos his first since before most of them got pregnant with their first. So I'm not okay with it, and the regional manager, is not okay that I'm not okay with it. So I have to take it up to the next level, which I haven't done.

I have to get ready for work, and I'm in tears I don't want to get back to work. The work is easy, and my boss is cool. But I just feel this complete lack of control and there are so many cooks in the kitchen. I have a lot of flexibility there and it's close to home, so it would be ridiculous to leave. But I really want to. Hard to go from Queen bee at one job and worker bee with no authority in another. Why can't I just get pregnant so I can stay home!!!!

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Heidi~We didn't get anything last night. A dusting of snow and some slush but not what they were calling for. I guess we're supposed to get more tonight though. I'm with you on hating this weather!! My backyard has water laying in it and it sucks for our dogs! They love the water, but I don't want my backyard ruined! We just planted grass seed last year and it looked nice!!!I know what you mean about getting down when you're in the 2ww. I feel down too I've got my fingers crossed that AF stays away for you!

I hope everyone is having a good day so far! Work is boring as usual for me I'm trying to not go to the RR as much in fear that i'll start spotting. I'm still in the clear at least

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Betsy-I know we'll go with an IUI if we're not successful. It's just hard when my body seems to respond to everything but for some reason we can't get the boys and girls to mingle. The good thing is that I will actually have meds for 2 more cycles. But insurance will only cover 1 more and an IUI. So my plan is if this doesn't work to talk with the RE and see if he's willing to do any creative stuff to get my insurance to cover another monitoring of injectables since I'll have the meds. The monitoring I think is what gets expensive with b/w and u/s......the actual IUI only costs $250. I know I'm way ahead of myself as this could of worked......DH and I talked about al this over the weekend and to know I had multiple follies I think will make it harder if this doesn't work. I feel like up the meds increased our chances but again its a matter of everything coming togehter. Oh well its a process right?!

As for the RESOLVE....I don't blame you for not wanting to do that group. To me you have a wealth of information and experience to share with people and that's not the place for you. Our peer leader actually has 2 kids from IVF and appreciate her insight she's able to give all of us. Keep pushing forward.

As for work.....I'm with you about it just being plan annoying. I overall have it pretty easy too but dealing with the people is on my last nerve!

Deanna-I feel bad for our dogs too. I'm afraid they're going to hurt themselves running around on all that ice. Hope the spotting stays away for you. Chart is still looking good!

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Karyn ~ I was so embarrassed for most of them during the 'show' they put on, I couldn't even watch. I was horrified. I wasn't real surprised at the outcome. I think Kristy Jo is this season's Sam/Lacy wrapped up into one. I suspect there's some 'reality tv' string pulling that goes on behind the scenes to keep up the drama -- it's probably pretty interesting considering he's so known for doing whatever he wants and bucking rules (in a good way -- seen it myself. Did I ever tell you about the concert I went to where he told the venue security to piss off and told everyone to leave their seats and move forward if they wanted? It was SO cool. It could have been dangerous -- major venue -- but he had read the crowd so well, everyone had an absolute BLAST and there wasn't a single problem. Love, love, love this guy).

Hi everyone. Thanks for all the checking-up on me and support y'all have been throwing my way. I feel like I have all this stuff around me, all these choices, and I don't want any of them, and I don't have the tools to make them. I want to stick my head in the sand and disappear. I'm exhausted; I'm loosing my grip. I was walking through Costco last night and burst into tears in the like, canned tomato aisle, or something. That sort of thing is happening more and more frequently. The past few days have been solidly like that, and I have no hormonal reason for it, so it's not like I'm PMSing. I feel sick to my stomach a lot. I think about y'all all the time, even though I don't post much. I really just want to disappear. Through all the stuff that's happened in my life, I never remember actually wanting to cease existing. Not even after loosing the babies. But that's what I feel like now. I want to not exist. I can't cope with all these life decisions, all these crossroads all around me like a big spiderweb. Sorry, I feel like I'm whining now. Sorry.

Okay, good luck everyone. Y'all have a lot going on right now, and a lot coming up. Yay! *thinking good thoughts for everyone*

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So I figure I would post this over here so you girls could give me some advice. As you guys know, maybe some dont, Dh and I had to deal with unexplained infertility after my ovarian torsion and mc. So I know what couples go through when they are not getting pregnant on their own. I will try to make this short. My bil has always been the someone what favorite child of my dh's family. My sil calls him, I am not kidding, around 3 or 4 times a day!!! I know my sil has been trying for over a year because she said they were going to start a xmas two years ago. So DH and I went to dinner last night with my bil and his gf and he said he talked to my sil and she was wondering how my dh was doing because she hadnt talked to him in over a month!! The thought that went through my mind was then call him yourself to see how things are. So on the way home from dinner dh decided to call her. The conversation lasted less that 10 min and normally she is a very chatty kathy!!! There is no getting off the phone unless the conversation has lasted 30 min and she has repeated some stories 2 or 3 times!!! She never once asked how I was or the girls and it was a bit odd that their converstaion ended right after DH said that we had to bathe the girls. I dont know if she just doesnt want to talk to him because we have kids now and she is upset that she is not pregnant like she would want to be. I havent talked to her in over a month myself. I did find out last night that she is on clomid. I guess I am a little annoyed with her. I mean come on it is not like Dh and I just magically got pregnant on our first try with twins!!! I know everyone has their own way of dealing with infertility but we went through the same thing and I know how difficult and frustrtaing it can be. So I guess I need advice from you guys. Do I call and bring it up or just have a normal conversation? Do I let her deal with things and wait for her to call me? I dont know. I am just tired of the way she has been acting and I would take up 100pages to tell you everything else!!! Any advice is appreciated.

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Lisa-I would probably bring it up. I know personally I would love to have someone in person to chat with that has experienced what we have. I don't think you need to bring up specificly that she's on clomid but may be letting her know that you'd be happy to talk/listen or whatever she might need. I do think its weird if she knows what you guys went through she would avoid you. To me those are the people that generally are easier to talk to rather than the person that gets knocked up by looking at their husband.

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Lisa- I say let it slide. Infertility is a cross that we have to bear and most times we don't really want to talk to people with children or pregnant ladies. We have many ladies here at my work who are pregnant and I still don't talk to them very often or even ask how they are feeling. I know that sounds weird, but I just don't really want to hear about it. When I had to struggle, it was nice to do it on my own, without feeling "lectured to" or guilty about how I felt. Not that that is your intention, I'm just thinking out loud on paper.

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Lisa ~ I know you remember being there in your head, but it’s going to be hard to call up the feeling of how much pain it is with those girls to fill up your arms and heart, KWIM? No matter what, if she’s dealing with it, it’s going to hurt. No matter what’s happened before, no matter what’s been between you or not, the hunger for what you want can eat you up inside, and drown out everything else. I say, reach out. Simply. Try to take care of her, even if she seems like she doesn’t want it. Even if she rejects it. Even if she HIDES from it. That one try might be the thing that softly gets her through one bad night, whether you ever know it or not. Be gentle, but direct. Tell her it hurt you so badly back then, how lonely, how much anger there can be. That she’ll be safe with you, you're not going to assum you know what she needs. Even if she wants to sit there with one of your girls on her lap and cry, it’s okay. Anything she needs it okay, even if she doesn’t know what she needs -- that's okay. She doesn’t have to pretend. She doesn't have to paint on a smile for you. If she wants to talk treatment-trenches stuff, you’re ready. If she’s scared to death of how far they’re going to have to go, you’ll hold her hand. If she’s just pissed, that’s okay. If she doesn't want to talk, just wants to have someone know, that's okay. If her relationship is getting bumpy from the stress, she doesn’t have to be ashamed. You have a friend who has been there in a big way. Just reach out softly -- you can't hurt her more than she is. She may respond by turning 'turtle' and drawing in. One of the things that hurt the most for me was feeling slapped in the face by the world around me, but not feeling those hands reaching out from those that were around me. People assumed they knew what I needed or didn’t need. People who loved me wanted to ‘be there’ but no one really knew what to do. I guess they were waiting for me to go to them, but they didn't understand I didn't have the strength. I was so shell-shocked. I was so afraid of the world, of the pain, of leaving safety and venturing out to get stung. I felt like they weren’t listening hard enough – they were too busy assuming they could understand a shred of the heartache, and talking at me, almost lecturing, no matter how well-intentioned, like Jo said. She may be screaming at the top of her lungs and only a whisper is coming out. Just try. Since you asked…

BTW, how are your pretty princesses?

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