DH had to go to the docs today about his tennis elbow.While he was there he mentioned that we were ttc and not having much luck.
He did bend the truth a bit about how long we've been ttc though.Although we've been ttc for nearly 2 years he didn't tell them that we actually took a break for about 6 months last year so officially we've only been trying again since Jan this year.
He's started to worry that there may be a problem with him although I feel that if there is a problem it's more likely to be because of me(I don't know why,it's just a feeling I've got)

So now he's got to go for a SA on friday.

Also his doctor advised that I see my doc for fertility tests.
I'm not sure how I feel about this,especially as he kinda lied about how long we've been ttc.I know he did this so that we can get a head start if there does turn out to be a problem but I kinda feel like we're cheating.

I was tested for PCOS a coupla months ago and was given the all clear but now I'm starting to worry that there may be all kinds of problems.
I feel like I'm going crazy now.

Do I have the tests done and worry that they'll find something wrong or just carry on and hope for the best?

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When you took a break, were you using protection during that time? Because infertility is defined as intercourse for at least a year without using prevention and not getting pregnant. So even if you weren't specifically "trying", if you weren't preventing that kind of counts, anyway.

I can't speak for you, obviously, but had I known then what I know now, I gladly would have started the testing early myself. DH and I have been "officially trying" for 15 months now. We waited until 12 months to say anything to the doctor. Only now are we starting all the testing procedures. I really wish that we had started it much earlier, to have an idea of why we are not conceiving. So, personally, I wouldn't feel bad starting early with testing procedures if I were you. Even if things come back normal for you both, then you just keep on trying. If they don't, well, you've got a little more information earlier than you would have otherwise, and that will help you with the ttc process.

BTW, once my DH was told he need to get the analysis done, it took him over three months to actually do it! If yours is ready and willing now, I say go for it. If he wimps out like my guy did, then you may be ttc a lot longer before any testing is even done!

Good luck with whatever you choose!

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Kerrie- I know what you mean about getting nervous and just hoping everything is fine. But, in my case, well, i´d like to know.
My DHand i have been TTC for 6 months now, just last month he decided to get an S/A, and it turns out he had some sort of infection, that was making his swimmers really lazy. The dr gave him antibiotics for a month, and says he´ll get much better.
It´still a downer, but at least we got treatment for it, early. Otherwise we would have waited at least another 6 months before we seriously worried.
Anyways, my advice is to test. Ypu never know....

Hope everything goes well for you.

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When I go see my doctor next month for my annual I plan on stretching the truth. I don't want to keep waiting and find out something is definately wrong that could have been "adjusted" months ago.

Kerrie- I would suggest starting the process.

~Betsy

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Kerrie - I kinda understan how you feel about not wanting to be tested, but I'm coming at it from a different point.

I'm just flat scared of the tests. I don't know if I'm just having a bad spell or what, but I just feel like if I start the testing, I'm going to find out I can't have kids. And that's why I haven't made my appt yet.

I really have no reasons to feel like that, I have no family history of infertility, but then I think about the fact that everyone else in my family got pg in a month or two and so I'm already out of the norm.

I'm just twisting myself into a tizzy.

Sarah - No we wasn't using protection whilst on a break.Wow,that means officially we've been ttc for 2 years this sept.

O.K I've looked into the process on the internet and I'm actually feeling a lot better about it now.I think I was confused by the way it was just thrown at me.I hadn't even considered going for tests yet.
I feel better knowing that a lot of problems can be sorted out.
Thanks for all your support ladies and I'll keep you updated.

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Kerrie- we are in kind of the same situation. We "offically" have been ttc for 15 months. In reality, though, we were not using any protection (besides pulling out), well, for years, actually. So I know how you feel when the reality of how long it has truly been hits.
And I thought it was interesting how you said "I know the problem is me". I have felt the same way. In fact, all my life I have always felt that I would have trouble conceiving. There was nothing in family history or in my past to make me feel that way, but I have always known for some reason. It's just really wierd for it to be coming true.

Anyway, just wanted to let you know that you are not alone! Good luck with the tests; at least they may give you some answers!

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Thanks Sarah.

I've just made an appointment for a smear test next week.I've been putting it off for a while cos I didn't want it to interfere with bd.I'll see my doc when I get the results because I know that he'll tell me to wait until then anyway.

Good luck to you too and may we both be blessed with BFPs soon.

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IKWYM about do you keep on keepin on, or find out if there is something wrong. It's a damned if you do, damned if you don't thing. It was really heartbreaking to get results of something being wrong (I have a luteal phase defect -- low progesterone), but after a handful of weeks of processing and mourning the loss of that 'perfection', I actually feel much better than I did before, and I'm getting excited about starting my clomid next week.

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Stephanie - I'm glad that you are feeling so positive.I hope that I'll be able to if I get some bad news.Good luck with the clomid.


Well dh had his SA done today.I'm so proud that he managed it.I thought that he would get really nervous and not be able to produce.We should find out the results on tuesday.

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