Ashley ~ No anti-husband sentiment here... I actually talked with Cap'n last night about the porn issue. He admitted to me that he looks at it online when I am out of town but is not a consistent user. I kind of shrugged it off and that was the end of that.

Lindy ~ I'm sorry about the struggles you are having and hope you get it all worked out. Yay to losing weight, I'm sure I have gained, I won't weigh myself!

I'm officially spotting. Going to update my chart now...

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Lindy- I assume you mean your DH was jacking off. Only with no porn-correct? Hun, I'm really not sure what to tell ya there. How much sex does your DH need, exactly? I'll be perfectly honest, though and please don't think I'm coming down on you or thinking you aren't justified in the way you feel: I've done the same thing as your DH once or twice...........a week (only in another room). I figured if the jerk didn't want me then I'd fix it myself. Now, I'm not saying that you aren't entitled to be too tired to BD...believe me, you are. I'm just thinking that maybe you're expectation of cold turkey is a little more than he can live up to. Please don't shut down on him. I think you two can work this out. It sounds like he is desparate to keep you happy and doesn't want you to hurt, but it sounds like he is a bit of a little kid when it comes to sex and can't help himself. My personal rule is that just because one isn't in the mood doesn't mean we both have to go witout. KWIM? I know you understood that he promised and that is part of what upsets you, but if I had a nickel for everytime I thought DH said one thing and he thought another! Now, I would seriously tell him to at least relieve himself in the bathroom, though-that might have been a little awkward, huh? Congrats on the 6 lbs, though. That's a great start!

Ashley- So let me get this straight- You accidentally turned on PORN in front of your MIL?!?!?! OMG that is friggin hillarious.

Mel- good luck with the interview and all. Glad you have a plan at least. Hope your little ducklings do well on the tests

Irene- OUCH! that stung a little to hear that your Dr says mine is 10yrs outdated! Jeeze, I knew we had substandard healthcare here, but not THAT bad. As For S&TC, I've never seen it. NYC scares the bejezzus out of me. I have no desire to go there, I'm such a bumpkin! There's just so many people,and everyone dresses all purdy and I can't even have a gun there! I can't go anywhere I can't have a gun, are you nuts?

Mary- Hang in there. The first month charting is like molasses. It is very good to start paying attention to your body, though. Amazingly, I dont' get the "when are you having kids" question. But I'm usually just terribly blunt and then people shut up. Right now, my standard answer is "We're Trying" People usually get that.

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Claire ~ You are too funny! "I won't go anywhere I can't carry a gun!"

Lindy ~ I was assuming the same thing that Claire was. Ummm...from my point of view I don't mind it b/ Cap'n has a much higher sex drive than I do. But he's not allowed to touch his weinie during my fertile patch.

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Lindy - Congrats on the weight loss! But I'm kind of with Claire on this one, if I don't want to, then go ahead and jack off, same thing if he doesn't want to, I might go ahead and please myself. Although if DH ever found out that I still did that, he might lose it.


And the porn in front of the MIL is priceless.

I don't want to test again, I'm getting crazy over it. We'll probably BD again tonight, w/out the seed. And hope for the best.

Sometimes my DH act like such a big baby, I wonder if I even need a kid!

I just wish he had a small little clue on how I feel right now. I'm like the last person that would ever be depressed, but I'm starting to get the whole feel sorry for me attitude and I HATE IT!!!!

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Claire- Yes, you guessed it. The JO thing pisses me off bc I give it up sometimes 3 times a day. I give it up almost everyday! That is why it blows my mind that he still does it. I mean he gets it a lunch even! I don't understand why he still turns to the hand? KWIM? That is the part that makes me feel like he doesn't care about me enough to wait even a week before he JO again. I knew he would but never thought only after 3 days. I must just be a big B or something. I enjoy BD as much as he does, but I was really exhausted. I am glad he was truthful, but he did it over the phone instead of face to face. I guess my hormones are all over the place lately. I mean I have cried more times in the past couple of weeks than I have in 3 years! I think I will keep on trying to be a better wife. I must not be doing something right for him to need to JO all of the time. Any advice is welcome, I will respond if I can. Thanks Claire!

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"Let's kick some fat butt!"

And you all say I haven't been married that long! Dang girl, I KWYM!!!! Like give the thing a break already. Wow, and I thought we did it a lot!

First the first time on here, I'm speechless. LOL

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w w w w w w w wait a minute, Lindy. Your DH's need to ejaculate at least 3x a day has NOTHING to do with your "being a good wife" or "not doing something right". Don't start to think like that. I can tell you from experience that is not the case. Look. Some people have higher drives than others. I would say, if his drive is that high, THANK GOD that he feels he can take care of himself in his house without keeping it a secret from you. The alternative is someone else. I'd rather it be his hand than some other girl, KWIM? Being truthful with each other and having the ability to talk about things that are, well, uncomfortable, is all part of good healthy marriages.

Now, as far as whether or not his level of sex drive is "normal" or not, I have no idea. I know I couldn't keep that pace of 3x/day......or everyday, for that matter. But that's me. My DH is worried that I want it more than once a month-and he might not be able to keep up!!!! So, I dunno. My point is, that we are all a little different in that arena......the key is if we can all find some happy medium.

Just to clarify: You really were asleep while he was spanking his monkey? You didn't hear him, right? So, if that is true, then why did he tell you later? Maybe it's just me, but when I'm "with" myself, DH has no clue-and I prefer it that way! LOL.

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Thank you guys. I guess I am just hormonal. Yes, I slept through it all normally I don't. I was really really tired last night. My eyes were burning at 8. I normally don't hit the sack until midnight or so. We were in bed at 10. I guess youre right about at least it is his hand rather than another woman. Ok, well I am going to at least take a couple of days to clean our spare room! I think it will make me feel better. Thanks again!

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"Let's kick some fat butt!"

Wow..... Carzy Busy night in the ER!!! I was hoping to keep up today. Oh well here goes:

Irene, Good luck with no bd for a week... (I'll wish you good luck on your HSG when it gets closer ) j/k... that really sux! Oh and I think that we should invent a really cute chic line that all can afford, bc I so love to dress nice, but sometimes it is just unreasonable!

Mary, I'm in for the trip. DH and I along w/ BF and hubby r planning on going this summer. I'm psyched. We all went to Vegas awhile back and had a blast. I can't wait. Oh and remember, it's always ok to vent!

Lindy, Lindy, Lindy... what r we gonna do w/ him??? I'm praying for you girlie! I'm sure that things will work out in the end. How long did you say you've been married for?? I know my DH has brought me to hell and back tw/ TCC and life in general. I think that it's all part of being married and learning to comprimise. I'm not very good at not getting my way, but I blame him for that. He was way to good to me in the beginning and now, I just sorta expect it... And I really think that Claire hit it on the nose.... PS. I hope that you're not cleaning that room out for you??

Mel... Glad you don't have to hate the models! And Eww to spotting...

Claire, Perfectly spoken as always! Oh and Yes, it was nice. He just looked at me with those eyes. It was def priceless!

Hello ladies. I have a few minutes, so this is going to be quick. This is a busy week for me!

Heidi~Thanks for the input. I don't think I'm ready yet to give up and go right to DE, especially when I hear stories like that. I don't want to have regrets in 10, 20 years that I should have tried something else, kwim? And I feel like I have time if we do decide that DE are for us. I just have to wait for this cycle to be over so we can start again.

Lauren~(If you read this ) Thanks. I will most likely be pming you with questions as we go through this decision making process. I know I'll have questions, but I don't know what they are yet

Betsy~I read your email, just haven't had a chance to answer yet

Everyone else, thank you for your support. It means a lot. Mother's Day was sucky. All I wanted was for someone to say "Happy Mother's Day" to me. I mean, I went through 3 months of morning sickness and 13 hours of labor. I might not have a living child, but still...everyone at the hospital kept insisting that I was a mom, so I wanted to hear it now. LOL My mom was the one who finally said it to me when I saw her and she brought me a red rose. I thought that was very sweet of her. I hope some day I can be the kind of mother to someone the way she is to me. Anyway, before I get all weepy...DH did cook dinner for my parents and me. He said I shouldn't have to cook on Mother's Day

I had EWCM today. I don't know if that means I'm going to o, or if this is one of those "several patches of ewcm" in an annovulatory cycle. I'm going to take an opk, but they want 4 hours of not drinking anything before hand, so I have another hour to go. I'm so thirsty!!!

Sorry if this post doesn't make any sense. I haven't really been my regular self these past few days

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Hi everybody!! Boy have I missed out on some good conversations! I do have to say, I agree with Betsy on the porn/marriage viewpoint...I guess it kinda comes down to what you're both comfortable with. And communication is the key for sure.
Well, I went to the RE today and here are a few of my results: Estradiol(sp?) 32, FSH 4, LH 2.6 Now, supposedly these are all w/in normal limits. My CA125(endo indicator) was a little high...I think it's supposed to be 21, and mine was 27. She said all other levels were normal. So....she is suspecting endo. I have to go in again on CD 21 to have my progesterone done again because for some strange reason it didn't get run from my last blood draw...UGH! So...if that comes back normal, she's going to suggest a lap. She said she suspects endo because of my CA125 results, cyst on my ovary, heavy periods, and miscarriage. Supposedly these are all risk factors for endo. Ok...any thoughts, input, comments, suggestions? Thanks!

Lindy- sorry to hear of your recent troubles, I hope you and DH can work it out.

Mel- hope your kiddos did well on that test. Good luck on your interview! And you had me laughing with that weinie comment...I tell DH the same thing!

JJ- sorry you had a sucky mother's day, sounds like you have an awesome momma and DH!

Irene- good luck with your HSG...take some ibuprofin before you go!

Ashley- that's hilarious about your MIL and the porn!

Hi to anyone I missed!

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Wow... talk about a crazy day. I'm just about beat! So much for my day of relaxation. Oh well not to much to post, just thinking of you girlies as always! I think DH is getting jealous bc I check on you guys more than him

JJ, we all have these days, so don't apoligize, justkeep on rambling! Hopefully things will get better for you, and i'm sry about your crappy Mom's Day. Just know that you weren't alone. I think many of us had a hard time with it, not that we can all sympathize, but it just sucks! Oh and let us know how your OPK was... Hopefully you got a + so you can enjoy the next few days and then we can start praying for you and good things!!! ( I think i'll go stalk your chart...)

Becky, I'm so praying that your tests come back norm so you can avoid a lap... If this is the case, what will the next step be??? Sry for my ignorance, I'm still learning lots. I have an awful time with tests and bld wrk bc, well I guess it's nothing i've gone thru yet. (Hopefully it won't come to that) I still have about 7 more mths b4 my gyn will even see me again... so my ignorance will be around for a bit

Well i'm off to sleep... i'll try to post in the am, but I have to sub for a reading teacher which i'm hoping will be cake, and then dinner, shopping and girl scouts with my lil-sis... we're doing cake decor, i'm excited

Claire ~ So well spoken "The alternative is someone else. I'd rather it be his hand than some other girl, KWIM?" Cap'n never does his thing in my presence (although he is laying on the floor next to me and told me to tell you gals that he is JO right now, big goober!), he waits until I am gone and goes to the bathroom or the shower. I guess it is diff for everyone and like I said in an earlier post, as long as he doesn't touch it during my fertile patch, it's all gravy.

Ashley ~ A reading class? Should be easy, assign them all to read and bring a magazine for yourself.

I meant to tell you guys, that I had a $50 GC to Borders and I went there on Sunday after seeing Iron Man and I bought the first Shopaholic book! Waiting for this summer to read it, can't wait!

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JJ - I'm glad you seem to be feeling better about where you are. I also agree that you deserved a 'happy mother's day' , too. I told my dh the same thing...just because I don't have a two year old now, doesn't mean that I was never a mother.

Becky - your test results look good! I never heard of that CA125, though. I hope your progesterone turns out as good as the others. Keep us posted.

Lindy - I think Claire and Ashley said it well - and it is very common. I agree that it is better for him to have his hand and not another woman, too.

Well, I finally got my positive opk today, but my temp was ridiculously high. I had to get up around 1:30 to pee and when the alarm went off this morning, both dogs were almost on top of me and I was breaking a sweat. I guess I'll have to discard my temp and hope that tomorrow's is more normal. I'll go for my b/w and u/s this morning then probably the IUI tomorrow.

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Becky~I would kill for an fsh of 4 (Mine is too high). I don't know much about the endo, so I can't comment on that. I hope though that whatever the problem is, they can fix it and you can be pg.

Ashley~Thank you. What kept me going is knowing that I'm not alone. kwim?
My opk last night was negative. I did another one this morning and it was negative too. I just don't think I'm going to o this cycle.

Melissa~That GC sounds nice! I think I would go crazy with that!

Rebecca~Exactly. We are mothers, just in a different way. Good luck with your iui!

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