I agree with your boyfriend that you should live for you and not what your family thinks, but you also have to realize that after having a family of your own you will no longer be livivng for youself. Having kids is hard. It is very rewarding, but even under the best of circumstances it is physically and emotionally draining. If you add to that finacial worries and extended family stress it can be really taxing.
I would suggest waiting a few years and making sure that you will be able to support a child or children. I have always wanted to be a stay at home mom too, but I did go to school and work for a while and now I can have the comfort in knowing that if something happened to my husband I could support us. I was a young mom with my first child (22 years old) and it was great for me but I think that has to do with having a husband that had a great job and both sides of our families that were great and super excited.

I know that it can be hard to wait when it is something you really want, but you will be ultimately responsible for these kids for at least 18 years, so waiting a couple will only make things better in the long run.

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