I agree with the others when I say that you should either try to get out of the trip by talking to your boss, or see who the other person going is and if they are trustworthy, like an office girlfriend, then let them in on what's going on and then you will have someone with you to be accountable to.

I know what you are going through. I don't know how long you and dh have been ttc, but dh and I were only ttc for 4 months, and it quickly got old. I love my dh more than anything in the world, and there are times I can just look at him and want to attack him , but there were also time during ttc that I would find myself thinking, "Man, do we have to, again?" It just got to be so much about the science of it instead of the attraction. I started thinking of his "manly areas" as a babymaking device instead of something for our pleasure. I also want to tell you that it doesn't get better after the ttc ends sometimes. Dh and I are happily expecting our miracle on Thanksgiving Day, but I'm still tempted just like you are. Now it is more out of the fact that I don't feel attractive to dh anymore, which he says is crazy, but when your body starts to change and nothing fits anymore and you're working around a belly every time you try to be intimate, it's hard to feel attractive. I've found myself attracted to one of dh's friends while ttc and now that we are pg. I even asked dh the other day if his friend had ever said anything about my being attractive. Dh just looked at me funny, then smiled. He knew exactly what I was thinking. I just needed to feel attractive to someone, anyone. The fact that you and this co-worker have discussed this does worry me though, once you start talking about something it makes it that much easier to actually go through with it. I hope you can get it resolved and let him know that although you feel like you want this at the moment, you have no desire to ruin your marriage. As far as things go with dh, we've been working on spicing things up a bit. Can we say, lingerie? Something we did last night was we were at Walmart and those little machines at the front have stuff like gum and toys in them, well we got one of those temporary tattoos. I let dh choose where he wanted to put it on me, and let's just say, we didn't use a sponge and water... tongues work fine. lol Also, if you're into that stuff, maybe some toys to surprise him with, or scarves to tie him to the bed, etc. I'm throwing out a lot of stuff, but mixing it up and being spontaneous is the key. I send dh sexy text messages on his cell phone while he's at work. Or maybe stuff a pair of your panties in his brief case or coat pocket. Dh and I went to a marriage siminar at our church (it's not threatening like counseling would be since there are lots of couples there) and it helped a lot during ttc! In fact, we got pg the next month! I hope some of this helps, if not I just did a great job of embarrassing myself! lol Sorry it was so long!