Leena said it perfectly, "Fantasy is much sexier than reality". The hard part is realizing that fantasy is just that, a fantasy, and one that cannot be played out in real life without reality's repercussion. Either way, I still feel that it's completely normal to feel like this and to even want to act on it, but not to actually go through with it. I think that when it gets to a point like this, something is trying to either test you or make you realize what you have now and what you want for the future. Either you can go ahead and ignore it or follow through with it and make a life/relationship changing decision. Because you never know whats to follow after making such a decision.

TTC can take a seriously high toll and if you feel like it isn't fun and exciting anymore.. Then just like everyone else, I also suggest a TTC break, and focus more on your relationship and get back what you feel like you have lost. Unfortunately, it will be hard to cut ties, as you've mentioned having to work with this guy a lot. But I suggest that when you start to get those urges again, call up your DH just to say you love him. And despite probably wanting to put this in the back of your head and wanting to keep it there forever, I'd probably try and communicate with your DH as to how your feeling. Not about the co-worker in particular but that you want to get back into your relationship and sex life. Cause I know if it were me, and if it were my DH feeling like this, I'd want him to tell me the truth.

But just like Sarah, I've also had an old flame tug on my heart a couple times. Even to the point where I've looked for him online to see how hes doing, but it's never gotten to the point where I'd want more. Sure, I've thought about him and when we were together if things were different where we would be, but my past with him made me realize just how great of a man that my DH is and how my former flame could never make me as happy as my DH does. Nor could that temptation ever be strong enough to make me want to damage or change my relationship. Even if it is for a simple fling. Just the thought of it makes me realize how big of a mistake it would be, cause I know the second that the passion is over, guilt would overcome me. And I'd never be able to live with the thought of knowing that if DH ever found out, I'd truly lose him along with his trust, respect, and love. Sure, those sparks feel great but absolutely no spark would be worth losing the man I love along with the man that I know I want to have my children with.

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