This is just my opinion but here it goes. The feelings you are feeling are normal. This co-worker is pure fantasy and lets face it fantasy is much sexier than reality. In reality we have responsibilities, obligations, but we also have safety & security. The co-worker you can kinda fill in the gaps you don't know about him & make him fabulous! He's not trust me! First of all he is hitting on a married woman. This should be a huge red flag. You wouldn't ever be able to trust this guy if you were ever really with him. Don't be so hard on yourself & take those fantasies & use them on DH! It may be the spice your marriage needs. By the way when people told you marriage is hard work, this is part of it. So don't give up.

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