With my first child, I had alot of dryness and zero libido after birth. Then, of course, there was the leaking breasts that no longer belonged to him. And after breastfeeding, the bbs sagged and the belly never quite fully went away. But DH was very comforting and understanding, though.

Having a baby can be very draining, and I won't lie to you and say that nothing will change. Your relationship does change; it's bound to because you go from two to three. But it's up to the both of you how you will deal with the changes. Having this baby that is a part of both of you can make life messy, but also quite wonderful. But you have to go into it with both eyes open and be accepting of the fact that change is inevitable. If you are used to and expect having a lot of alone time and plenty of time to romp around in the bedroom and do things spontaneously and be romantic and wear nice lingerie and put on makeup, well, perhaps you might want to wait a little longer (it's not that you can't do these things with a baby; it's just harder). With a child, you also find that you can't even argue like you used to or discuss things so openly like you used to--that's just the way it is. But, you find, instead that when your dh brings home some take-out, or calls you in the middle of the day, or picks up the dry-cleaning, or comes home just dying to hold your baby, you just about melt like an ice cream cone. I can't go back to a pre-baby marriage, but you know, I don't want to. Our lives are enriched, and the love that we feel for each other is so much deeper and sweeter than what we had before. Enough so that I'm now pregnant a second time. And looking forward to it--although, I'm not enjoying getting fat, but its just par for the course.

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