Here is my feeling, I am sure it is not the same for everyone... if you go in wishy washy you will end up medicated. Most nurses want a medicated mom. You have to go in saying this is what we are doing. Stick to your guns.

I went in wishy washy, saying I would like to do it natural but a epi is an option. I ended up with a epi, but then I only had 30 second breaks between contractions from the start. The next one I want to try natural but I will hire a dula. There is no way my wonderfully supportive husband has enough experience to get me though the process.

I have to say the epi was not bad at all. I had them pump as little medication as they could, they gave me control and I never put anymore medication in my body. I could push myself up on my legs and I sure did feel every contraction but it took the edge off.

I have to say I loved the birth of our son. Every second was a thrill that I want to experience again.

(hope that wasn't a horror story, I tried to stay positive)

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