I could use some help/advice here. I'm feeling a little sad. After 3 months of trying to conceive #2, DH has decided he doesn't want to have another child. Last night, he informed me he likes things the way they are now and he feels another child would put just too much stress on us. He's a college professor (animal science) and says he understands my biological clock is ticking, propagation of the species, etc. etc. blah blah blah. I guess I really have no choice but to get over it. I suppose I should make an appointment with my OB/GYN to get a BC pill prescription. I don't want to have another child without his support. Any thoughts? How do I get over this? I can't help feeling sad and resentful towards him for making this decision on his own. However, it's not really the type of decision (to not have one) that you need both people to agree to. It only takes one person in a relationship to decide they don't want any more children. That pretty much shuts everything down. I feel so sad. For our first child, I was definitely more ready than he was. Then, all of a sudden, (sounds familiar) he was ready. Well, shoot, then I had to be ready too. For a second child, we had considered adoption. He was more receptive to that idea than I was. I don't have anything against it, I just felt it wasn't for me. When he found out how expensive and long the adoption process was, he seemed like he wanted to have another one of our own. That, like I said, was back in April. Looking back, I guess he wasn't really into it as much as I was, and, when it didn't happen right away like with the first child (getting pregnant, that is), he seemed less and less willing. Another fact I should mention would be the fact that I'm already 32 years old, and I kind of feel like, it's now or never. I can't really afford to wait this out for very long. He mentioned a few different factors: stress, less money, less attention for #1, college, etc., but they all seem like cop-outs to me. Like I said earlier, though, if he's not completely on board, then I guess I'll have to accept that.
Sorry this is so long. I guess I just needed for someone to hear me out.
Thanks.
-Natalie