Hey Cass, you're welcome to tell her a little about my story if you like. I was 267 at my peak last year -- and I've talked a lot before about what I have done. But tell her that a few months ago, I spent a week or two where I wasn't eating lunch almost at all, and I actually STOPPED loosing, when it had been pouring off at a minimum of 1lb a week for months, and that I wasn't exercising or anything else that would have changed it. Once I started eating lunch again, I started loosing again. It was as simple as that. It really doesn't make any sense to the layman's brain -- we've been so cross-wired and programmed by the huge portion sizes and convenience foods being so heavy in calories and fats and sodium and stuff like that, and yet still the 'eating NOTHING should make you thin' thing is prevalent in most people's minds, even in supermodel jokes, you know?

I can tell her that I, without a shadow of a doubt, eat more now (binging long ago aside) than I ever did before.

You can even give her my email info if you think she'd be willing (PM me if you think so). I've spent YEARS heavy, and getting heavier, trying a little of this and a little of that, loosing a little a few times, but never having any real success. I needed a drastic health and weight change, and what I did had drastic, yet healthy results, and I NEEDED to see them FAST to keep motivated, and see the proof that I was taking good care of myself and that my body was FINALLY responding to something (a combination of somethings). I'M NOT HUGRY, and I'm NOT depriving myself, not by a long shot.

I know you've told her a lot of this and you sound so distraught -- maybe coming from someone else who was close to her weight and has had a lot of success in a short time could be a tool for you to use? I don't know how much more you can do. Being willing for your friend to be mad at you in a serious way because of what you had to say because you are worried about her health, that's about as serious as you can get about helping someone.

If you think any of my story can help, you tell her everything you want to. Or I will if that channel is open. I'll even type out a general outline of what I eat, how much, and when (I might do that anyway when I make my thread about my journey once I hit my goal weight). Oh, that's awful, doing that to herself...I'm so sorry that she feels like that is the answer, and I'm so sorry that you are having to worry and trying so hard to help without her letting you. Sucks. I certainly know what that's like. {{{hugs}}}

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