Yeah, I can see where you are coming from. I don't have any experience with an older child, like a teenager, being 'mom' to a really young sibling, and just wanting to live their own teenage life but being prohibited. I'm sorry you had to do that and lost some of your own childhood because of it. I guess the bottom line is, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, and who knows what the magic formula is.

I've said it before though...I used to have really strong thoughts on how many children I wanted and how far apart I wanted them, what was 'right'. But being where I have gotten to in my life, age, and fertility struggles, I'd have as many as I could afford if my family was my full-time job. I actually envy these people for being as fortunate as they are. Michelle has said in an interview I saw once or a show, that they worked their butts off job-wise for the first 5 (?) years they were married in order to be debt-free and have material things in place so that when the time came they could dedicate the time and money to their family.

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