Lisa~ Thank you... I think it is an amazing thing too. I am so thankful there are women generous enough to donate, to help women like me to become a mom.

Amber~ I'm a very honest person... But I think this goes beyond that... trying to make a decision about what is best for your child for their entire life. My initial thought was "Of course I would tell," but after reading a lot of different things, I think I am in the "not tell" camp for now. Although, I do think it may vary based on if we used a known or anonymous donor.

If we used an anonymous donor, there would be NO WAY for a child to track who their donor is, so what is the point in telling? They would never be able to contact them, or know them, so isn't it more painful to know your mom is not your biological mom, and not know who is?

I definitely think if parents choose to tell it should be started when the children are young. Like introducing the idea to them early that "we wanted you so badly, and had to have some help to have you..." kind of thing.

Did anyone see that Oprah show with the donor sperm kids? Some of those children were really fortunate to have known donors that they could establish a relationship with, but the ones who knew they were from donor sperm, but could not ever know their donor (because it was anonymous) just had this emptiness, and ache to know who it was... It just broke my heart.

This is the hardest thing I have ever had to decide... The entire DE process is really hard.

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