I think that DE are a wonderful thing and that if you feel it's right for you then you should do.

The question of whether or not to tell the child kinda got the ball rolling in my head. In one respect I understand why you wouldn't tell. On the other, i realize i'm not a parent, but i am an honest person. My parents were very open with me on everything. My family situation was a confused one and I feel like had I not known some things and found out later it would have been for the worse. Even now I feel like there are certain things that would create a rift between my mother and I. It's extremely easy to alienate a child(or at least make them feel that way) but it's nearly impossible to turn that relationship back in the right direction.

Whatever you decide though I wish you and yours the best of luck.

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