Here is how we have worked a few thing out. I have picked a few thing that he doesn't mind doing that he just always does for me. It used to include vacuuming but I have taken that over as I want it done more often.

DH does the trash/recycle for me. I stick it in the garage and it magically goes away. Then I don't have to ask it just gets done. Sometimes it he will get it from under the sink without me asking. He picks up his stuff for the most part and will help me with putting away clothes if I ask. I do options too. Would you like to put on Nathan PJ's or clean up the kitchen? I am trying hard to ask and not demand.

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